Sherron
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"BUT.... if CP's were REQUIRED to submit receipts say 2 or 3 times a year to the NCP -- it MIGHT make them more conciencious of where the $$ goes since they would be more accountable. I am PRETTY sure it would in my case if Exhole had to account for over $10K a year......"
Not really. Cs is income based, so it's not like you would pay less if he couldn't account for the whole $10k. And how would he prove that ds drank 3/4 of that gallon of milk, and not 1/2? What about activities that don't give receipts? Are you gonna sit down with ds and go through it line by line to make sure that ice cream on the receipt from 6 months ago went to him, and not sm? Who would get to decide what was a "valid expense" and what wasn't, and what would the consequences be?
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gr8Dad
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Yes, she would. She OBVIOUSLY is more interested in HATING her ex than loving her child, she shows it more and more every post.
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c_jane
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Actually what hatred I spew on here stays on here. FYI: Exhole just asked me for some driftwood and lava rocks I had in my yard and I let him have them.
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ssmom79
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I used to wonder how BM could account for $15k a year in child support. But the kids don't go without so why bother? They have a nice home to live in, their own bedrooms with nice furniture, they have clothes and shoes, food in the pantry, cell phones and cable TV, school lunches, they do activities on the weekend, they have dinners out during the week, they are well taken care of and while it seems like a lot of money and I hate that it's that much for the schedule we have, it's not forever.
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Redlegg
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I used to wonder how BM could account for $15k a year in child support. But the kids don't go without so why bother?
why bother?
why bother?
That is the only answer that works, you can beat yoruself up, the ex anyone, you want, it isn't fair, it might be fair, who knows, but you might as well embrace the suck, and let it go....
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c_jane
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LOL. I embrace the 'suck' Red & I don't even get kissed first. BUT... when my son texts me from HS & says he didn't eat lunch because FOTY 'forgot' to put $$ in his lunch account it really chaps my azz.
And I KNOW they are informed of it, as am I, because I get the SAME email they do a day BEFORE the lunch account runs dry.
And to forestall Not-So Gr8 jumping on THAT fact and asking why *I* didn't do it: (1) it was NOT during my days with DS, (2) I *assumed* they'd do it as it's THEIR responsibility as, after all, FOTY fought SO HARD to be CP but OH. I forgot. He didn't want the RESPONSIBILITY -- he just wanted the CASH that came with it.
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Edited by c_jane (02/14/13 11:07 AM)
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gr8Dad
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Actually, I am glad you posted this, because with SCHOOL WORK, you expect your ex to pick up the slack that YOU can't handle. And parents, even DIVORCED ones, should back stop each other for the best interest of the child.
But I guess asking you to back stop HIM, like you EXPECT him to back stop YOU, is asking too much.
Another AMAZING thing...your GENIUS level 14/15 year old, who is ACING his ADVANCED classes, apparently ain't got enough common sense to TELL his Dad he needs money for lunch. Why, my regualr old average everyday 14 year old son has the sense to TELL me when he has no lunch money. Of course, there is the possibility that their INTERNET is down, or the PC is not working, or their EMAIL is messed up...NAH, must be that Dad wants to STARVE the child. You should call CPS...if you haven't already.
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ssmom79
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When my kids don't have lunch money because their mom 'forgot' to add it...I just add it. I don't play games and say it's not MY day, so I won't pay. That's the petty nonsense that 'chaps my azz' about you.
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c_jane
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Like most intellectually above-average kids, DS ofttimes doesn't even pay attention to the more mundane 'common sense' type things. This is actually one ear-mark of intelligence -- lack of (or ignoring) common-sense day-to-day things.
If YOU were more familiar with intellectual ppl perhaps you would know this?? I am totally NOT surprised that DS didn't realize he was on his last day of money unless the cafeteria lady specifically TOLD him.
And since DS is saving up for a speaker system for his Jeep (a goal I applaud him for) he has stopped carrying any money to school so he won't spend it.
And since NEITHER Exhole nor I regularly communicate with each other (which we BOTH like) -- Exhole, who COULD'VE called me and said 'We're a little short right now -- could you put some $$ in DS's lunch account' didn't. He also would have notched up another level for FOTY who can't find $5 OUT OF $840/month to give our son for lunch.
And NOWHERE did I mention that Exhole was STARVING DS. (Although with a BMI of 12 there's not much extra there for him to miss a meal--LOL!! Wish I could say the same <grin>). I merely stated FACTS. You read into it what you wanted to.
Exhole is a piss-poor money manager (which I KNOW from living with him those 4 stressful years) which is gonna bite him in the butt some day.
[quote]Actually, I am glad you posted this, because with SCHOOL WORK, you expect your ex to pick up the slack that YOU can't handle. And parents, even DIVORCED ones, should back stop each other for the best interest of the child.
But I guess asking you to back stop HIM, like you EXPECT him to back stop YOU, is asking too much.
Another AMAZING thing...your GENIUS level 14/15 year old, who is ACING his ADVANCED classes, apparently ain't got enough common sense to TELL his Dad he needs money for lunch. Why, my regualr old average everyday 14 year old son has the sense to TELL me when he has no lunch money. Of course, there is the possibility that their INTERNET is down, or the PC is not working, or their EMAIL is messed up...NAH, must be that Dad wants to STARVE the child. You should call CPS...if you haven't already. [/quote]
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Edited by c_jane (02/15/13 12:48 PM)
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gr8Dad
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"Like most intellectually above-average kids, DS ofttimes doesn't even pay attention to the more mundane 'common sense' type things."
I highly disagree with this, and think if it is indeed the case, that making him learn to pay attention, with things like, "Wow, kiddo, should paid attention to that, bet yer hungry." What do you do when you are at work and do not have money for lunch? Or are you one of those who NEVER forgets anything? Of course, using YOUR definition, that would make you of LOWER intelligence, as you are paying attention to "mundane" things.
But I digress.
"Exhole, who COULD'VE called me and said 'We're a little short right now -- could you put some $$ in DS's lunch account' didn't."
So you KNOW, for a FACT that Dad is AWARE that the account is empty? I mean I KNOW you have stated repeatedly that "exhole" doesn't pay attention to mundane things...HEY! Wait a minute, doesn't that mean that your "exhole" is of above...nevermind. How do you KNOW he knows the account is empty? Maybe he doesn't check his email.
"I am totally NOT surprised that DS didn't realize he was on his last day of money unless the cafeteria lady specifically TOLD him."
So Dad would not be aware of the empty account unless the EMAIL told him, right? I mean maybe your "exhole" is just one of those highly intelligent people who doesn't pay attention to "mundane" things. Isn't that a GOOD trait? I mean you appear to REVEL in that trait in your child. You use it as a secondary indictor of intelligence. Yet you then use it as a sign of LOW intelligence in your ex. So which is it?
"And NOWHERE did I mention that Exhole was STARVING DS. I merely stated FACTS. You read into it what you wanted to."
No, you stated that you KNOW ex is aware of the FACT that the account is empty. If he KNOWS the child has no lunch money, and INTENTIONALLY does not do something to rectify it, he is INTENTIONALLY denying the child food, and thus STARVING the child. Now, if he just doesn't KNOW the account is empty, then it is an accident, and should be moved on from. You cannot be angry about an accident, especially when it is most like from him not paying attention to "mundane" things, a trait which you use to EXCUSE your son's faults.
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