finz
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[quote]my household is very stable. More stable than someone who is bipolar and "living with' a boyfriend.
I help my disabled father. Is that a crime?
If he's not paying rent, than she's supporting him, and I should not have to support her if thats whats going on.
If she wants to be a [censored], she can post more on craigslist, like she did when we were married.
Everyone I talk to says to take her to court to reduce my support because of this.
the calculator I used says I should be paying 131 (even though she doesn't really need it, she got by fine when I was not paying) [/quote]
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Are you kidding ?
You are saying you KNEW that she was up to behavior that you believe makes her unfit......and you left your child ALONE with her while you moved out of state ?
That would make YOU more mentally unstable then you claim she is.
Dude, wake up
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finz
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[quote]If it's on my watch, sure. I shouldn't have to on her days. [/quote]
Try approximating......How many days have you had to call into work for a sick child and how many has she over the years ? If you claim to have 50/50 time, those numbers should be pretty close.......unless you have more weekends/fun time and leave school issues to your ex OR if your dd bizarrely only gets ill certain days of the week.
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daddyinthed
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I divorced her because of the stuff on craigslist. I wanted to take my daughter with me when I had to move, but she didn't let me.
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finz
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[quote]she is my ex wife. we had a no-cohabitation clause, but she says that since I have had live-in girlfriends for short periods, and he has stayed over on the weekends for years, and i never filed about it, it would just get thrown out.
Is she wrong? should I bring this up if she takes me to court? [/quote]
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Are you kidding ?
You've already shacked up (shout out to Avaya who has unofficially trademarked that term here) and now you are whining because she is going to ?
Only a complete moron, who enjoys throwing away money, would go to court under those circumstances.
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finz
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[quote]I divorced her because of the stuff on craigslist. I wanted to take my daughter with me when I had to move, but she didn't let me. [/quote]
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She didn't let you ? Or the court didn't let you ?
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daddyinthed
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she says she is going to file if i won;t settle with her for twice what I am paying!
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daddyinthed
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I had to move, and did not have time to go to court. she decided to change where she was going to kindergarten at the last minute from the district I lived in to the one that wasnt as good where she lived (why I got residential). It would have been the same if she had stayed with me when I moved, and she should have because I had residential!!!!
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youngatheart
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It's pretty simple. Child support is based upon a formula. They will use her salary (ONLY hers, not her boyfriend) and your salary (imputed if you are unemployed or underemployed), number of overnights, medical/dental insurance, daycare, etc. If you think you'll pay less, then let her take you to court. If the child is in daycare, I DOUBT you will be paying less than $200 per month.
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youngatheart
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You moved. You should NOT have been permitted to move the child with you. If you want to move away from your child (and yes, it is a choice), then go for it. What one should not be allowed to do is move a child from their other, involved, parent.
Sounds like things worked out as they should have.
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Goodmom
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You said:
my household is very stable. More stable than someone who is bipolar
My response:
Funny, you don't come across as stable.
You said:
and "living with' a boyfriend.
My response:
So?
You said:
I help my disabled father. Is that a crime?
My response:
No, but it does not relieve you of your obligation to help financially support your child. Even if what you are paying is peanuts. To be honest, your support SHOULD be increased. $181 really isn't that much given how expensive kids are.
You said:
If he's not paying rent, than she's supporting him,
My response:
Not on $181 (or even $350 a month)a month, she's not.
You said:
and I should not have to support her if thats whats going on.
My response:
Then it's a good thing that you aren't paying spousal support.
You said:
If she wants to be a [censored], she can post more on craigslist, like she did when we were married.
My response:
I can see why she would want an escape from you.
You said:
Everyone I talk to says to take her to court to reduce my support because of this.
My response:
Who is everyone? Because a decent attorney (who would be part of everyone) would tell you that your ex's bf has no bearing whatsoever on child support calculations. If I were you, I would select better "everyone" to hang out with.
You said:
the calculator I used says I should be paying 131 (even though she doesn't really need it, she got by fine when I was not paying)
My response:
And just what income were you using when plugging in the numbers? Remember, the court does have the ability to impute income to you based on your earnings history and if you are unemployed, you just may find this out. And caring for a disabled father isn't going to cut it as a reason to not have income imputed to you.
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