Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2018
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[quote]she gets insurance free through work? why should I pay anything if she gets it free?? [/quote]
If it's free, then there are no insurance premiums to split. Just the medical costs that aren't covered by insurance.
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Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2018
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You said:
She scheduled her dance classes on my "evening" (not overnight) and then asked me to help pay!!! How fair is that.
My response:
Whether you have to pay or not is going to be determined by what is in your court order.
You said:
the calculator I used [censored]://[censored].miestimator.com/ says I shoudl only pay 131 (incomes of 2100 net and 1100 net), and she wants 350!!!
My response:
During my divorce, I found the online calculators to be very inaccurate. And you are probably assuming that they use net. Or if they use net, they go by what you elect to withhold from your check. In NJ, they have the IRS tax withholding tables and determine what the withholding is. Eliminates the issue of someone increasing their tax withholding to reduce their support.
You said:
I should not have to pay for daycare (why she wants more) because she works too much.
My response:
My ex's attorney, in chambers with the judge and my attorney, tried to use that argument. You know what the judge told her? Fine, then he can pay her spousal support so she can stay home and take care of the kids. His attorney shut up after that.
You are going to be paying a portion of work related childcare costs. As you should.
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Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2018
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[quote]I had 50% of overnights before she took it away!! [/quote]
No, she didn't. YOU did. How? You MOVED.
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Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2018
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[quote]If it's on my watch, sure. I shouldn't have to on her days. [/quote]
You really should have as little time as possible with your child. You clearly aren't interested in parenting.
Most guys (and moms) would jump at the opportunity for more time with their child.
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Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2018
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[quote]why should I be flexible? she took away my custody! [/quote]
No, she didn't. YOU did by moving.
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Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2018
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[quote] I had to move, and did not have time to go to court. she decided to change where she was going to kindergarten at the last minute from the district I lived in to the one that wasnt as good where she lived (why I got residential). It would have been the same if she had stayed with me when I moved, and she should have because I had residential!!!! [/quote]
I have residential. Should I decide to move to a different state and my ex protests the move (as he should), chances are I will have to either stay where I am or become the NCP. You chose to move away. You may or may not have won a court case, but you left before going to court. When you moved out of state, your child was no longer able to go to school in that district. Her mother did the responsible thing and enrolled her in the school district that she was eligible to attend.
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MinnesotaMom
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Reged: 01/05/11
Posts: 191
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Ignore this poster. They can't be for real.
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gr8Dad
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Reged: 06/07/04
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Actually, you might want to consider that he lives close to a state line, and moved JUST the other side of it. He stated that had Mom NOT changed the child's school, the child would still be in the same district. Sounds like he moved a short distance, across a state line.
Also, a few other things (for the other posters, not you), if you become unemployed, and have the opportunity to work in another state, and CSE is threatening to put you in JAIL for not paying support, YES< it CAN feel like you have a gun to your head. As for splitting INSURANCE PREMIUMS< that RARELY happens.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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youngatheart
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Reged: 09/03/05
Posts: 9400
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The poster started MI and Nashville, which are several hundred miles apart. I believe he mentioned they live in MI, which does split insurance premiums.
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c_jane
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Reged: 04/06/07
Posts: 1759
Loc: In the Great State of Texas
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I can sympathize with this situation REGARDLESS of WHICH parent is paying CS. Do NOT let her take you back to court -- it's practically GUARANTEED your CS will be upped.
Yes, most CP's know they've got a 'cash cow' in hand and milk it for all it's worth. Before I got my CS cancelled just this past February (my son is 16 and Father of the Year has had custody all this time) I figured I had paid out over $120K in support of FOTY's family. In essence, I was actively supporting TWO families because it does NOT take almost $1K/month to raise a child. Luckily I have a degree and profession that I could do that & still afford a house & car, etc.
Unfortunately, even $130/month sounds low to me though. As someone else said, pick the hill you want to die on very carefully.
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John Constantine: God's a kid with an ant farm.... He's not planning anything.
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