ILMimi
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My child definitely won't end up with a different address. As you read, my STBX is "sick." Even if I don't force my daughter to see him and that's what is the argument here, no court would ever give him custody. I have already been awarded sole custody. We just have the financial portion to settle.
What my lawyer said was that IL law states I must make her available to him during his visitation/parenting time. It doesn't say I must force her to see him. And actually I do encourage her to see him. But there is a fine line between encouraging and forcing and, given the circumstances, I am not going to cross that line.
Someone elses circumstances may be completely different. In the absence of addiction, mental illness and/or abuse, perhaps a bit more, ahem, encouragement, is warranted.
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lifegoeson
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Having a mentally ill parent myself, I do feel that children need to know their parents. But... mentally ill to the point of your ex and my mother, visitation should be supervised. I often wish someone would have suggested that when I was a child.
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Relayer
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[quote]My child definitely won't end up with a different address. As you read, my STBX is "sick." Even if I don't force my daughter to see him and that's what is the argument here, no court would ever give him custody. I have already been awarded sole custody. We just have the financial portion to settle.
-->HAHA..my ex had sole custody too...allegding I was "sick". Who says he is sick? You? BTW, I am in Illinois...
What my lawyer said was that IL law states I must make her available to him during his visitation/parenting time.
--> You have a [censored] lawyer..I have been in the Illinois courts 13 years..I know the deal
It doesn't say I must force her to see him.
---> Did you even READ the statute
And actually I do encourage her to see him. But there is a fine line between encouraging and forcing and, given the circumstances, I am not going to cross that line.
---> Go right ahead. Make sure her bags are packed.
Someone elses circumstances may be completely different. In the absence of addiction, mental illness and/or abuse, perhaps a bit more, ahem, encouragement, is warranted. [/quote]
---> You need a lot more than that lady.
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ILMimi
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Who said he is "sick?" HE DID! He admitted to being bipolar and a drug addict. He even has to undergo drug testing to continue to get unsupervised visitation. The evaluator who did the evaluation came up with the sole custody and limited visitation recommendation as well as the drug testing guidelines. She was harsher on him than even I was. Did I mention his 6 car accidents in 2 years as well as his DUI, rehab(s), suicide attempts? There is very well documented proof to his addictions and illness.
I think I'll defer to my lawyers opinion on IL law, not someone who is a board troll.
BTW Based on how you talk to people, I'm going to agree with your ex- you are sick. And based on your bitterness I'm going to guess your custody fight didn't go the way you had hoped. Good for your kids!!
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Relayer
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Ya..I'm a troll...whatever...
I got my kids back you you obviously lack the ability to read...I also quoted you the statute dipstick.
Just let me know the name of your lawyer so if my ex ever tries anything goofy and ends up hiring him, I have one less thing to worry about.
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Miranda
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BTW Based on how you talk to people, I'm going to agree with your ex- you are sick. And based on your bitterness I'm going to guess your custody fight didn't go the way you had hoped. Good for your kids!!
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That is so incredibly immature and far fetched.
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Relayer
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In fact, here is the exact working from my petition. Don't be suprised when something like this shows up:
1. (Ex wife) has demonstrated she does not have the ability to cooperate or substantially comply with a Joint Parenting Order of any kind and has willfully and in an egregious manner consistently violated the Court order, placing her own needs and desires ahead of the best interests of the children and in doing so has endangered the children’s physical, mental, moral and emotional health in violation of 750 ILCS 602.8
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Relayer
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[quote]BTW Based on how you talk to people, I'm going to agree with your ex- you are sick. And based on your bitterness I'm going to guess your custody fight didn't go the way you had hoped. Good for your kids!!
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That is so incredibly immature and far fetched. [/quote]
I was physically sick you moron and I have them back. In fact, she's pretty good these days at kissing my ass.
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Miranda
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What? Eeek, I am a moron! Zoinks!
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Relayer
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Oh Jesus..I am sorry Miranda..I thought that was her...you know I dont think you are a moron...
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