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SRS
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Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish

[Re: Nicole]
#784976 - 05/21/12 06:00 PM

Doing something is better than sitting on your hands. It will show you ARE interested in the well being of the children and not screwing over the BM.

If she fights it, she fights it. You can't stop her from fighting it. WHo cares. He needs to support his kids.

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elliesmom
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Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish

[Re: Goodmom]
#784984 - 05/21/12 07:39 PM

I think you need to re-read that sentence. No one was suggesting they should ask for, want, etc. all summer. I was qualifying my own statement that *I* would not be hauling a kid HOURS away for a soccer game, unless *I* had the whole summer, thus the kid SHOULD get to spend SOME time involved in hometown activities - so in that case I would. They are talking about a few weeks here and there. And no way in that situation would I do that. I don't see the benefit in disrupting their vacation with their Dad that much. But if there is a good reason to do so, it should be at the NCPs discretion. And the only way to make that happen is to write in there he gets them no matter what.

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Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish

[Re: Nicole]
#785028 - 05/22/12 03:52 PM

Has the modification been filed for a LD by your attorney yet? If not, what is the hold up? There is no reason why the attorney shouldn't have drafted a modification for BOTH visitation/parenting time AND child support by now. Then you get a court date and there ya go...

I would NOT pay "child support" without an order...because it will NOT be considered child support unless BM calls it such. Once one of the parties (BM or your H) file to pay/receive CS the courts will give her CS to the date of file. Who knows that she has not filed yet? When BM filed once...it was in November and the court date wasn't processed til February.

I see nothing wrong with paying for extras or contributing as your H sees fit, but I would not agree to a CS order verbally because it will not be counted as child support. Your H will have to pay back CS anyway when the order is issued.

I don't think there is anything wrong with switching weekends to work around the kids' extracurricular however ONLY IF BM seems willing and she does NOT. If I recall your H has JOINT custody so one would think that the parents should agree on the extras. Now that your H is seeking a LD parenting plan I would think summer extras would be limited to each area. So if your H will an extended amount of time in the summer then maybe he can sign the boys up for Soccer Camp in your now hometown. That is what we did with SD. This way your boys can begin to make friends and become part of your local community.

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