gr8Dad
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Okay, stop the bullsh!t dancing around with words like "legal 50/50", what was the outcome of the hearing? Did you LEGAL time go up or down? What is your LEGAL custody situation and parenting time AT THE TIME?
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elliesmom
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I could be remembering her story wrong - but she had 50-50 off the record. She wanted it on the record and to lower her CS. He immediately yanked 50-50 and they went to court over it. I assume she means she lost if she never had legal 50-50. He MAY have allowed her to go back to the 50-50 schedule once she lost in court; of course she would still be paying full CS. Which is total BS. I get why she hates the Mfer. I just don't always agree with some of the things she does.
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gr8Dad
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I think I will wait for her to actually ANSWER what she ACTUALLY has. Honestly, I don't feel like searching for it, but I was pretty sure she got the order she wanted.
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c_jane
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My 'legal' time did not change from '09 (I stated '06 but I meant '09 earlier) Of COURSE Exhole STOPPED 50/50 and ALSO OF COURSE my CS went up.
I have the exact same LEGAL time as I've had since '06: Thurs. nite, 1st, 3rd, & 5th weekends, all holidays/vacations split).
The ONLY time we've actually worked TOGETHER for our son was that 7 months I mentioned before. Which ended in a New York minute as soon as I mentioned stopping CS & splitting everything 50/50.
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c_jane
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And as far as DS's reasons for wanting the change mainly it's school work and support for his studies. And he's tired of Exhole accusing him of being on drugs every time he turns around. Which he's not. And he wants to live in a place that actually feels welcoming to him & his friends. And he's tired of the constant drama, yelling, & screaming that goes on over at Exholes.
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elliesmom
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Is there any way (like an online record system) to show that your son does better in school coming from your home vs his fathers?
For example we were able to show that HW was always completed when they returned after our weekend, but never after hers (not kidding - NOT ONCE did they hand in HW on time following her weekends). Most teachers were willing to state that 2 weeks of work was done on our weekends. It may not be that extreme for you, but it can't hurt to show (if you can) areas where you are a better parent.
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gr8Dad
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Well, would you care to tell us WHICH thing you are lying about? Because a search of your posts shows this post from July 31, 2009:
"I got everything I wanted. Well, nearly everything. 50/50 stays the same, I put $500/month in a college fund for DS and pay Ex- $200/month. Which is a little more than I'm happy with, but at LEAST I'll get to start DS a college fund now, which was the major point.
I am just glad it's all over. Hopefully I won't have to deal w/the Jerk until DS is 18 and CS is OVER!!!!!"
So, lets see, your child support went from $780 a month, to $200 a month, with you putting $500 a month in a college fund (thus it went DOWN), and you stated you got the 50/50 time ordered.
Well, actually, it WASN'T order, your "ex-hole" AGREED to it in mediation (you know, that SOB who won't agree to ANYTHING).
You are busted, time to come clean, are you lying NOW, or were you lying then?
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Goodmom
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You said:
....be GREATLY manipulated and bribed.
My response:
By BOTH parents. They are also old enough to recognize which parent would be the better parent to live with. When My aunt divorced her first husband, her teen-ager and almost teen-ager were savvy enough to recognize that living with their father would be better for them. My aunt recognized the wisdom of not going against a teen-agers feet. Because when she did, the oldest ran away. For two years. He never did finish high school, either. He is a successful business owner. And has been for over a decade,
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Which is so smart because teenagers are SO mature and knowledgeable!
My response:
And some are even more knowledgeable than an internet stranger who thinks it is wise to go against a teen-agers feet.
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Goodmom
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[quote] Which ended in a New York minute as soon as I mentioned stopping CS & splitting everything 50/50. [/quote]
And there's where your mistake was. You should never have mentioned child support at all.
Just dealt with making the parenting time official with the courts and then addressing the child support once the judge signed off on the new plan.
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Cassie23
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That's the way I remember it as well. 50/50 time split but the problem was is she still had to pay CS. I thought it was because her state didn't recognize time share as a reduction for CS? Regardless of the % of time the NCP would still pay CS.
Anyway in NYS when my SD decided she wanted to come live with us at age 16 lawyer upon lawyer said it would be fight if Mom did not agree. The judge does take into account what a teen may want, BUT that is not the ONLY underlying factor. If they do have 50/50 time share and live that close to one another WHY would the kid have to MOVE? Down the street? Doesn't really make sense.
I know NY is different than other states, but I would hope a judge wouldn't just consider the mouth of a teenager.
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