Cassie23
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I don't consider it a witch hunt. I would have no need to put her on ignore? I hope for Jane's sake if she pays CS and has 50/50 that changes at some point because it is unfair. I personally don't think whatever her time share is that placement will be changed based only on the wants of the child. I guess time will tell, if Jane posts again with the outcome.
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Cassie23
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Why do you care what I post??? Oh Lord...you won't run me off?? I'm not looking to run you off SRS. I just don't "get" your thinking.
Just as gr8 stated in the past many times- Nicole didn't LIE that was her take on what happened. She went on to say in the same posting that she was denied time she WANTED not time that was allocated to her H. It's the semantics of the situation and completely different. To you, it's the same and that is your prerogative.
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ssmom79
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I usually don't post to CJ either. Her posts have long left me with a foul taste the way she blames her 'ex-hole' for everything and her son can do no wrong. At his age, he's dismissed as an innocent kid far too often. Her actions are often vindictive and it's counter-productive to her goal. I did try to tell her that but she sees things her own way. If she's been less than forthcoming with her situation I'm not surprised. Gr8 is usually on her like sliced cheese on a breadstick. I guess everyone has their pet peeve posters.
If her son is ready to try living at mom's, why not. THe kid is 15 years old, let him talk to a judge. A judge made what many people consider the 'right' choice sending the kid to dad, might as well give the judge a chance again. Pro-mom, not relevant. Both of these parents are vindictive and use their hatred for each other to fuel the fire. Who's worse?
And SRS is just ridiculous. Point out an inconsistency, you're a troll. Use the search feature, you're a troll. Have an opinion about her situation or her comments in any way and you're just trying to run her off....and then you get the good old you're just like JL, or Lo or ToTo...always quick to throw that bone out. It's so whatever Cassie...you're best off just letting her dangle her bait out there all day. Maybe she'll fish somewhere else.
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Cassie23
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I think for CJane maybe she should ask for 50/50 then and try that out before asking for a complete change in custody. I think unless her X agrees I don't know that a judge will just decide the kid can live with her. If her X refuses won't there be a trial and so forth? The trial could last a couple years minimum. However she may have the money to spend on a trial while her X may not.
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ssmom79
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Seems like a lot of wasted money to fight for custody of a 15 year old.
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annieo
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"Seems like a lot of wasted money to fight for custody of a 15 year old."
It does seem that way especially since if the ex doesn't agree Jane will bring on a custody battle just to say na na boo boo if she is awarded custody - it won't really be about the child.
Who is ToTo - can't figure that one out.
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Cassie23
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That's what several lawyers told us when SD decided she wanted to live with us at 16. That her voice would be heard BUT unless X agreed then it would go to trial. There would be lots of continuances and it could take 2-3 years on average. 2 to 3 years and thousands of dollars surely. Just wasn't worth the fight unless SD really felt like the home was a danger to her. SD ended up changing her mind 6 months in anyway because her Mom bought her a dog.
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ssmom79
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We are approaching our first real test with BM in YEARS. SS graduates next year. CS hasn't been revisited since original decree in 2000. We are fairly certain we have the upper hand so to speak. 50/50, we cover most extra curriculars, she covered insurance premiums and cell phones, we cover medical expenses and prescriptions. Pretty easy...but that number will change and invariably will go down so we will be taking money from BM's home. That just won't go over well with BM. Hubby is prepping a proposal in December to give to her. He has an idea of what is fair (no idea what he has in mind) and he'd like to split health insurance 50/50 and the medical expenses 50/50. Especially since she has to cover SS until he's 26. We want to make sure we assist in providing that, even if CS isn't required for SS. UGH, I'm glad he handles all matters of money. I stay out of those.
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Cassie23
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CS ending is quite the relief. The thing is you won't be giving $$ to BM for your SS persay, but I am sure you are looking to help him out financially in college. As best one can. So the money is no longer needed to go to her for him because he is an adult.
CS was always the problem with BM. And now that SHE has to pay it ($400 less than what H paid when he was making what BM now makes because he gave her a break) she refuses to speak to her own DD. It is sad that some allow money to get in the way of relationships.
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ssmom79
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We've always seen it as a lateral move from CS to college. SS is trade school bound, just doesn't have what it takes to be a college kid. SD on the other hand wants to move away and go to college. Totally different look toward their futures. Looks like the money we save on SS trade school will go to SD college (that is if she can do two years local first).
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