philivey
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my wife, step daughter and newborn daughther live with my parents. if my wife and i were to get divorced how often and how much could my parents see her on top of my visitation? would the fact that they are my grandparents cut down on child support possible?
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kkimberh
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Your parents would be expected to visit with your daughter on your time. They don't get their own time "on top" of yours... Grandparents have no inherent rights. And no, grandparents have no impact on child support whatsoever. This is between you and mom - you need to leave your parents out of it.
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philivey
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they are already very involved due to the fact we live in their house. it seems like they are always trying to referee our fights and will take both sides. it's frustrating too because my parents are old and the stress is hard on them.
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kkimberh
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Sounds like these grandparents are sticking their noses in WAY WAY WAY too much into where they need NOT to be... Them being way over involved does not change the legal answer. Visitation is between the mother and father, and mom absolutely should NOT have to give up part of her time, on top of dad's time, to anyone else. Your parents need to butt out and they need to realize that they will be expected to visit with the children on your time. Period.
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philivey
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Really? So they can't fight for their own time. Time that they get.
Then the time between my baby could be divided up 3 ways. 1 to my wife, 1 to me and 1 to my parents. That would really benefit me.
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BeckaLeigh
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It doesn't work like that. You can give them part of your time, but your wife is not obligated to give them any of her time. AS you have already been told, this also has nothing to do with child support.
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kkimberh
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Or to put it in a really crude way, as I've heard an attorney say... Were your parents there when you made this baby??? If the answer's no - then no, they get no say. This is between the child's MOM and DAD, and NO ONE else. Gramma and Granpa need to seriously butt out...
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BeckaLeigh
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And if the grandparents were there when the baby was made??? LMAO.
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kkimberh
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Oh eeeeewwww!!!!!!! Just ewww! LOL
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BeckaLeigh
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I know. Put some images in my head I could have done well without.
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basketkasekattie
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1st of all did you ever think of moving out of your parents place.that just might be the root of the problem.living with parents or in-law. because when your get in parent home or in-laws home the parent factor takes over,and the parent(s)want to tell you what you should do. you,your wife & kids go stay at motel for 1 night im telling you, you will see some of the frustration ease up alittle bit,by getting away for a little while.get out of your parents place.GIVE THEM A BREAK.get your own place 1st an if that doesn't work then go the divirce route.but trust me you think its bad now, just wait till the divorce starts. im sorry to have too tell you this but grandparents have no rights in court,or in your divorce. they can tell their side of the story but thats all they can do.a judge dosent care about grandparents unless you or your wife are unfit to care for or raise your child/children.they raised you now you need to grow up and take care of your own family. you think divorce is the easy way out! (there is no easy way out)!you have a child and your wife has you and 2 children that is for the rest of your lifes! i've been thru alot in the last 10 yrs,with my own divorce,and my children.you think its going too be hard on you, just think about,how the children are going to feel when they get a little older.when your dropping off and picking up your child and they cry because they want too stay with mom,or stay with dad.thats what hurts the most,and deep down in your heart you know you've done nothing too make them not want to go with you or her!
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