vlee214
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My husband (soon to be ex) is currently in Basic in Ft Jackson, SC. Long story short, I found out that basically everything I thought I knew about him was a lie. I am trying to get everything ready to file for divorce. We have only been married a short time, since Aug 10, he left on Aug 16. He got a weekend pass and hooked up with a Drill Sgt's wife out there, lied to his CO who found out and called me. He is claiming me as a dependent to receive BAH, but has not sent any to me to help out, even before the problems started. I believe he may actually be sending at least part of it to an ex GF of his. Since he is only in Basic, do I need to follow the Military Divorce guidelines? He will be out of Basic around Dec 16, and is supposed to go to AIT here in Missouri at Ft Leonardwood. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Redlegg
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He is required to support you with an amount equal to the BAH, unless there is a court order, request the support, and file for divorce. Its a civil matter, get an attorney and you can get started.
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vlee214
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I have requested it, from him as well as his CO. I know that I will not be eligible to receive BAH once we are divorced, since we were married for such a short time. Should I contact Base Legal at one of the local bases to me? I am not really in a position to pay for an attorney.
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Redlegg
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Lawyers for the military represent the government, the only time they will represent a soldier is if the government is charging them. Divorce is a civil matter and they will tell you to contact a civilian lawyer. They are not allowed to represent you, they can only give you advice and in divorce that advice is to get a civilian lawyer. Look around there are probably lawyers that have free consultations and may allow you to see where you stand. If its a simple, uncontested divorce, there are things you can do on your own, pretty much everything in the divorce. The way I see it so far, there are no long drawn out issues, but who knows. Get the free consult and see whee you stand.
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1004SRS
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You don't have kids, you haven't been married very long. Do you have a friend tht has been divorced? See if you can do it yourself.
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vlee214
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[quote]You don't have kids, you haven't been married very long. Do you have a friend tht has been divorced? See if you can do it yourself. [/quote]
I was hoping to be able to do it myself-do I need to worry about the military provisions, since he is not currently out of Basic and AIT?
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1004SRS
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What military provisions?
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matart1
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you should know that while you are in Basic Training - you do not receive a paycheck..........let's get real here.
you were not sent money because he has not been paid.
at the end of training he will collect a check from day one to day end but it will not be for what you think - you know those fancy new uniforms he will be wearing - that will come out of the paycheck also.
move on and cut your losses and be thankfull that you do not have too much time invested in a marriage to find this crap out.
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Redlegg
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Is that something new, not getting paid in Basic Training, I know you will not get any bonus money until you complete training, and I know you don't actually get a paycheck, its direct deposit, and I thought your initial issue was exactly that, issued, not bought. I know you start earning a clothing allowance after six months, in the first 6 months, you can exchange your issue items if it is a size/fit issue, but I guess they have changed alot.
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matart1
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that is how is was when I went through Basic and thereafter.
I was in the Navy and was married going in.
it was a given that that was how we would plan finances for the first couple of months.
I was able to sign up with direct deposit and a bank when I went to post.
how was it when you were in..??
maybe it is different now.
clothing has certainly changed by what you are saying.
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