Sendosha
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We are in New York. Me and my husband will be having our divorce finalized Feb.24. I know the judge will order the house sold. We both co-own the house and both our names are on the deed. Neither me or my husband has the money to buy the other out.
I had acquired 2 real estate agents to appraise the house. Both offered multiple listing service. My husband refused to sign with either of them. Now he has found his own real estate agent. When she came to appraise the house my husband pointed out all the problems we have with the house and all problems we've had in the past. The real estate agent offered to list the house at a very low price and wants exclusive rights to sell. I told my husband I would not use their services because 1. the price was too low and 2. I want multiple listing so the house will sell faster. I have also been advised by my lawyer to NOT sign any exclusive deals. My husband told me, "Well, I'm not going to sign with anyone you like either." It's very childish. He is legitamitly mentally ill.
I am afraid that despite the judge ordering the house sold, we will not agree on a real estate agent and that my husband will try to discourage potential buyers by telling them all the things wrong with the house, past and present.
Do I have any legal rights? I want this house sold so I can get on with my life without him.
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stuckinarut
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Exactly whats going on here in NY with me...but she still lives in the house with kids....she points out all the defects to the buyers and no one wants to buy and won't lower the house to the low price the realtor said it would probably sell at.
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Maury
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Stuck --do you ever talk about anyuthing other than yourself?
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stuckinarut
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Ilove talking about myself!
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Maury
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No kidding --who could tell.
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finz
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Does he really believe that he can keep the house if it does not sell ? Does he "get" that he is costing himself money ? Is this to hurt you or because he fantasizes about family life the way it was ?
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Sendosha
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"Does he really believe that he can keep the house if it does not sell ? Does he "get" that he is costing himself money ? Is this to hurt you or because he fantasizes about family life the way it was ?"
He wants me to move out, he wants me to "just leave". I guess he thinks then he can stay here indefinately. Yes, he definately wants to hurt me. He has always said, "I don't care if I hurt myself as long as I hurt someone else too." And Yes! He does have a fantasy that we will get back together and things will be the way they used to be. "Used to be" meaning 20 or so years ago. We have not been getting along in any way for the past 12 - 15 years. Things have just been getting worse. We almost never speak to each other and when we do it just turns into an argument. We don't go anywhere together anymore or do anything together. We don't even share a bedroom anymore and we haven't for a long time. Let's just say "a long time". He lives in a fantasy world. We tried marriage counseling and the counselor told me, "He's crazy. He's lost touch with reality." I want to sell asap and get on with the rest of my life.
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finz
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Not much you can do then until the judge orders it sold. It does suck that this cost you so much
I hear you on the bedroom issue too........same situation here. He just got me beautiful emerald earrings for xmas, like everything was perfectly normal and he should be getting me a romantic gift. WTF ? Don't bother trying to figure them out.
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shortmarriage
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Sendosha, Let us know what happened in court. And keep yourself safe, he sounds like a nut case.
Finz, How long have you been married?
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finz
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15 years...seperate bedrooms for 13. He thinks that's normal
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shortmarriage
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Normal for who? What do you think? No chance of that changing, because it's typical now?
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