motorboater
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A two-parent family with a caring father figure.
Do NOT fvcking bring this up as a good reason to move away from the biofather who opposes the move. :-(
You will look utterly, and accurately, like you're trying to replace dad in the kids' lives....
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lilmama2
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Yes, lots of people live in two bedroom apartments, but I really don't think that at a certain age a boy and a girl should share a room.
The marriage will work. The only reason the marriage didn't work with my ex was that he was lying and cheating on me. And I could go on. Fortunately, though, everybody is not like that.
Uh....sorry!! It is not just about my needs/wants. You do not even know me. I am a mother who was there with my son when he had childhood cancer, when my ex went off for a weekend with a girl, for the day to day stuff every mother does. It wasn't about my needs and wants when my ex coerced me into aborting our twins because he threated to just leave and never come back.
Give me a break......PLEASE!!!
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motorboater
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wow you played both the "cheating" and the "disease" cards all in one post. all we need is some "abuse" and we'd have the holy trinity of excuses to justify whatever you want.
Okay. I'm not going to delete that nor apologize for it though I suppose I should to be the kind of person I want to be.
But you do realize that your motivations are sketchy and if your story doesn't sell well here, it's likely to go even worse against opposing counsel, right?
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greeneyes
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Then have your new husband move to you and then you can buy a house or a bigger apartment. Why has Mr. Wonderful not offered to move to you and the kids so the kids aren't further away from their father? Or does he want to replace dad??
Do you not realize that 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate then 1st marriages? But, I guess you have a crystal ball and know that this marriage will work - LOL.
You don't want to be alone. I can understand not wanting to be alone or even being mad at ex for his past stupidity but that doesn't justify what you are going to do. Your ex has a right to be near his children.
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lilmama2
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My motivation is not at all sketchy and I am not trying to sell anything to anyone cause you don't know me or the whole situation.
I am done posting on this topic as you are pretty much obviously all idiots.
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greeneyes
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How is anyone supposed to know you or the whole situation? All we have to go by are your posts.
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motorboater
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I suppose I am an idiot to be trying to help you out when I should be helping your ex.
Hey, you're the one with an explicitly "pro-father" male judge, likely with kids of his own. And you're trying to go explicitly AGAINST his wishes to move your kids 150 miles away from their dad, without notification, for your love life, and for kids to have an "improved" male role model in their lives, and you don't want to budge on CS $ either.
Yeah. Good luck with that.
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finz
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Did she just admit to killing two children so her ex wouldn't leave her and he did anyway ? Wow. Yeah.....we'll be sure not to think that you MIGHT not put your wants above the best interests of your kids.
People haven't responded to your post to pick on you. You asked for an opinion on your planned course of action. You got it. Move if you want, just don't complain if it comes back to bite you in the backside.
And, for the record, no......I am not a WI divorce attorney here to give you free legal advice.
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PhoenixRising
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In answer to the essential question of WHY did the judge deny her plan to relocate; the OP said that it was because the judge "thought" that by denying her relocation plan; she would not move away from the child's father.
She is mad at the judge and is going to move to "almost" the maximum distance away from the ex; just to pi$$ off the judge.
Her ex will use the change in circumstances as the basis to bring forward another request for a reversal of placement.
The final decision for this mess will rest in the hands of the judge, whom she worked so hard to annoy..
Isn't there a website that posts stories about people who shoot themselves in the foot?
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BeckaLeigh
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I have to put my .02 in here. She mentioned moving right before school so that the judge won't expect her to uproot the kids from their NEW school to come back to their old one. I want to say, in my case, the judge changed custody in January while our daughter was enrolled in the same school she had been in for 1 and a half school years, to be put in our local school 200+ miles away. So, don't think that will have any sway with a judge.
As for why these ppl are able to give you such GOOD advice?? We have been there, done that and have the T-shirt to prove it. We have sat in the courtroom for weeks and months, not only going through our battles, but everyone else's in the room on those days. So, if you want to brush the advice you recieved here off? You can. I realize no one told you what you wanted to hear. And hopefully, if you are a much better parent than your X, you will keep custody. But, going to court is like going to the casino. You never know what you are going to walk out with.
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I tried being normal once. Worst five minutes of my life.
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