cincsu
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"That is an excellent point. At times when I have a client who overly reacts to something in a case I half jokingly suggest that the client will reconcile... after all there is no sense in having such strong feelings about what another person thinks unless you are going to stay in a relationship with them! Interesting just how many become deathly quiet after hearing the suggestion. " -from an attorney
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1004SRS
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So, in your posts you appear to overreact to everything involving the BM or SS. What does that mean?
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JennyLynn
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I don't believe you have to still be IN LOVE with your ex to still give a hoot what he/she thinks. There can be plenty of emotion involved without the blame being put on "being in love" with that person still.
You marry someone, you share a child with that person, you spend part of your life and your heart and soul with that person. Whether or not the majority be good or bad times...you still at one point shared yourself with your exspouse. It doesn't take a simple divorce to end all feelings of emotion, and to still have it doesn't mean you're still in love. It just means you're still healing. (spoken from my own perspective anyway)
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katiefedup
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are you suggesting that your husband is still in love with his ex???? After all, the two of you react to EVERYTHING she does
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cincsu
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i'm secretly in love with a fat chick 1004SRS! you pegged it.
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cincsu
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absolutely katie! he should have married her instead of me...i'm sure he'd have been much better off and happier!
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PrincessJ
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And?
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cincsu
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just creating healthy debate and discussion. i know that concept is too foreign for you julie, so you don't need to respond if it's that difficult for you, dear.
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1004SRS
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I am a mama bear to everything that involves my kids.
I know I was over reacting towards my x's behaviors towards the kids. He still doesn't see the kids by his choice. It still bothers me a little. But, I am confident that I am doing a fabulous job of raising them by myself.
I came to the realization that I can't control his behaviors, but I can control my reactions to them.
So, I guess I only overreact when I know that my kids are sad because Dad stood them up again or didn't call them back or made them cry for whatever reason.
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JennyLynn
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<<I came to the realization that I can't control his behaviors, but I can control my reactions to them. >>
Bingo!
And I agree...when it becomes something to do with your CHILD...it's a lot easier for emotions to be involved when it's your children you're looking out for!
Edited by JennyLynn (06/24/08 03:37 PM)
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