JennyLynn
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But if I remember correctly they haven't been divorced very long have they?
Sure, SRS will have to deal with the fact that she will most likely be SM one day, and cross that bridge when she gets here.
But honestly, I don't blame her one bit for not wanting her to be present.
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1004SRS
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Not meaning to offend anyone here regarding their own custody situation.
I can say, fairly or unfairly, that in my part of the country either women have primary custody with T, Th, and EOW visitation OR they share 50/50. It is VERY, VERY unusual for a female to not have custody in my part of the US.
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elliesmom
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If I had a legitimate reason to suspect someone was physically hurting my child - they should thank their lucky stars the only thing I was disinviting them to was a birthday party and not the drawing of their next breath.
And frankly I would tell him plain as day why she wasn't invited - the marks she leaves on the kids.
The OW stuff - as awful as that is, that's your stuff not your kids. Be grateful you have another reason to have her stay away so you don't have to be gracious on this issue for the sake of your kids.
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PrincessJ
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You are in the same general area as I am, aren't you?
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1004SRS
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Visitation is the same. He is what he is. Unable to cope with his children. I am both Mom and Dad. It sucks bad for the kids, but I can't change it. Our son misses his Dad, but I can't change the situation. I am just grateful for the time he does spend with them.
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1004SRS
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I'm tired of being gracious. I get tired of always having to take the high road. I get tired.
I have told him about the bruises and such. I told him that the daycare asked me about it (slight exaggeration). He says that DD gets them before she comes over to his house.
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1004SRS
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Yesserie, PJ. I never make it to your area. I haven't been there since April or so. Gas is so darned expensive.
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MaritimeGuy
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I don't see a problem with your invitation. You could have chosen not to invite him at all. Having the OW there is just going to make you tense and you'll be distracted. Your son should be able to have a party where Mom's not stressing and able to focus on him.
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1004SRS
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He wants me to e-mail him the details. He didn't think he could remember them.
uuhhhh...Saturday. 10-12. B-day party for your son.
I'm not e-mailing him. That is stupid.
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1966Gal
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Nope. You didn't do anything wrong. It was your party, you were the hostess and, therefore, it was your guestlist to choose. You should not have to socialize with OW if you don't want to.
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