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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: LexieBelle]
      #779740 - 03/13/12 09:42 AM

"SOME PEOPLE ARE CRAZY CONTROL FREAKS. Your dh's ex is one if them. Do her reactions make sense? Nope, but they will never. You can't deal with/make sense of irrational."

So if the EX is crazy, and would react to ANYONE, WHENEVER they got involved with him, how was SHE the factor in the divorce? And yes, you said NICOLE was a factor in the divorce, which she most DEFINITELY was not.

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: MrsB]
      #779741 - 03/13/12 09:43 AM

I don't get the whole SMs who deal with BMs are oversateppies. BM has both my cell and DHs. Guess who she calls 100% of the time? Me. Don't know why, never asked. Maybe cause she knows if she leaves the message with me I will harass him til he calls her back (I don't want her thinking I didn't give him the message!). His voicemail only makes him listen once.

And she now knows we started dating while they were still legally married (1 year into their 3 year divorce, after she had another mans baby and left DH mind you, but technically). Now she found out when I testified in court, because DH wanted to be discreet and I didn't meet his kids until after so no one knew but his parents. You know I have never given her any credit for being a bigger person for not being mad about that while living with another man (not babydaddy) and telling the kids he was their dad now. BAER. Not sure why we are looking for a reason to shyt on Nicole here.

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: elliesmom]
      #779744 - 03/13/12 10:06 AM

Agree EM. Some people just have it in for stepparents - it's silly. I just find it soooo interesting if the genders were reversed or if it weren't a SM who is a parental figure posting, she'd be getting different responses.

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: MrsB]
      #779745 - 03/13/12 10:36 AM

I don't have it in for stepparents at all. I just have a different POV. She states things that have different implications than what she is trying to say.

From the way I understand her posts, the last few threads that she recently started, she has beein trying to IMPLY that the BM is not fit or is not a good parent. She has stated that the BM is a good Mom but yet states other things that imply that she is not. Just my opinion and the way I interpreted what she stated.


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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: Tweeby]
      #779746 - 03/13/12 10:43 AM

I did not say everyone who disagreed with her had it in for stepparents.

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: MrsB]
      #779748 - 03/13/12 10:47 AM

How would you know? Don't you have all us hater types on "ignore"??? ROTFLMAO!!! She's baaaaaaacccccckkkkkkkkkkkk....

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: MrsB]
      #779753 - 03/13/12 11:43 AM

I was/am a fully involved stepparent and I never thought I was "better" then bm I just did things a lot differently.

I was raised a certain way and bm was raised about as polar opposite as one could be so of course we would handle things differently.

I do not understand the not wanting a stepparent to do things with/for your children - was I suppose to sit on my rump, eating bonbons, watching soap operas when your child needs lunch or their hair brushed or a nighttime story or when they have a cold and need comforting, help with their homework, buy them things that they want or need, take them out to do something fun etc... my husband worked a lot and had rotating shifts so yeah a lot was left to me and I did it without complaint and with love because they are my husbands children.

What would the bm's here suggest we stepparents do when your child is in our home the majority of the time and in my case 3000 miles away?

ETA: this was a quick reply

Edited by annieo (03/13/12 11:47 AM)


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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: LexieBelle]
      #779754 - 03/13/12 11:45 AM

The "hater types" are not the only ones conversing here.

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: ssmom79]
      #779756 - 03/13/12 11:47 AM

What's a "hater type" anyway:). Learn something new every day!

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Re: Some of you are awesome, thank you... [Re: ssmom79]
      #779757 - 03/13/12 11:48 AM

Oh yes.. of course. BAER.

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