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How would you handle this
      #784233 - 05/02/12 10:52 AM

How would you respond to this email? Yes, he CC'd me on it I did not get it from either of their email accounts.


From: dad
Sent: Wednesday, May 02, 2012 10:42 AM
To: DD1, DD2
Cc: me
Subject: Miss you

Hey girls,

How are you two doing? I was just wodering if everything ok, you didn't respond to my last email, Im worried about both of you. Want to know about school and track and things that your doing. Is there something prohibitting you from emailing me, I have no phone right now, and email is my ownly way to communicate with you. i love you both and want to stay in touch. I am in Afghanistan right now for a long period of time. but while here i want to know that all is ok with both of you. How are you and your friends getting along. I miss you both, hope to hear from you.

Love
Dad


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Re: How would you handle this [Re: AFreshStart]
      #784235 - 05/02/12 10:56 AM

I wouldn't respond. I would ask the 'girls' why they're not answering their Dad's email. That to me is disrespectful.

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Re: How would you handle this [Re: AFreshStart]
      #784236 - 05/02/12 11:01 AM

Given no details I would assume the reason you were copied is that Dad didn't get a response from the girls and wanted you to be 'in the know' that he was attempting to be in contact with them and desired a response from them, maybe hoping you could assist with the request for a response? I mean I'm just guessing here...

Were it me, I would ask the girls to type up a nice response when they hear from him and I would not respond to this email.


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Re: How would you handle this [Re: ssmom79]
      #784237 - 05/02/12 11:03 AM

[quote]Given no details I would assume the reason you were copied is that Dad didn't get a response from the girls and wanted you to be 'in the know' that he was attempting to be in contact with them and desired a response from them, maybe hoping you could assist with the request for a response? I mean I'm just guessing here...

Were it me, I would ask the girls to type up a nice response when they hear from him and I would not respond to this email. [/quote]


Agreed!!!

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Re: How would you handle this [Re: c_jane]
      #784238 - 05/02/12 11:03 AM

He goes weeks without calling or emailing them, even when he wasn't deployed. He went as long as 3 months with no contact one time.

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Re: How would you handle this [Re: ssmom79]
      #784239 - 05/02/12 11:09 AM

IMO, he cc'd me for a paper trail so that he can try and prove or show that I am prohibiting the girls from contacting him, which couldn't be further from the truth. I wish that he would contact them on a more regular basis, like calls 1 or 2 times a week when not deployed, and frequent emails.

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Re: How would you handle this [Re: AFreshStart]
      #784240 - 05/02/12 11:10 AM

Always encourage your girls to do the right thing, no matter how they are treated. Their father is attempting to contact them now. Hey look at it this way, it's just an email and teens these days can whip up mini novels on a cell phone, it shouldn't be hard to say, Hi dad, things are fine, school is fine, friends are fine, miss you and love you, signed, daughter.

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Re: How would you handle this [Re: ssmom79]
      #784241 - 05/02/12 11:16 AM

I do encourage them to do the right thing, but I'm not going to ask them every day if their dad emailed and if they emailed him back.

While we were married I had basiclly force him to call his son from a previous relationship. I never thought he would treat the girls this way.


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Re: How would you handle this [Re: AFreshStart]
      #784243 - 05/02/12 11:37 AM

[quote]While we were married I had basiclly force him to call his son from a previous relationship. I never thought he would treat the girls this way. [/quote]

Why would you think that?

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Re: How would you handle this [Re: Reilly]
      #784244 - 05/02/12 11:45 AM

Good question!!! I just thought he had a better relationship with the girls than he does with his son.

When he told me he wanted a divorce, in an email no less, he stopped all communication for a while. They were use to video messaging him once a week and talking to him multiple times a week. He didn't even tell the girls that he got remarried until 2 months after the fact.


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