javajunkiee
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...all the trolling going on with a positive post about stepfamily life, but ah what the hell.
SS18 graduated high school yesterday! It's funny how when, even when you know the day is coming, when it finally arrives you're happy and sad all at the same time. The grandparents are back in town for a couple of weeks and SS18 asked me to iron his clothes and grad gown while he bonded over a basketball game with grandpa. I'm standing there ironing Mr 6'2's stuff and remembering when I first met his 10yr old self, and all the little memorable moments in between. We've come a lonnnng way in our SM/SK relationship.
BM came over shortly before the ceremony and brought the cake, and we all went over together. Afterwards we all came back here for the drop in and spent the afternoon together. It was nice for both the SSs - they know their parents can tolerate each other but everyone, including the grandparents all had a good time together. It was really nice.
As BM was leaving I printed up one of the photos of her and SS18 in his gown that turned out really well and did a little tweaking to it so she'd have something she could frame. Nothing major but she was suprised and happy to have it.
Things definitely found their rhythm the last couple of years between BM & us, and although its not aggravation free, I'm glad that we can always put our differences aside for the boys sake. With any mount of luck things will keep on rolling along (knock wood) the next few years until the last one goes off into the world.
Peaceful coexistence in a stepfamily world is very nice. Very nice indeed. :)
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Reilly
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Congratulations JJ...! You made it this far without anyone going to jail, so that is success...
We haven't had much stepfamily drama in the last couple of years..mostly because we don't participate in it...the drama that it...we have grandchildren in common now and all the adults involved appear to be more interested in what's best for the grandkids, then they ever were about what was best for the kids...that sounds sad, but it is what it is...and things are peaceful...so I'm thankful...
Congratulations again!
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Gecko
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I'm standing there ironing Mr 6'2's stuff and remembering when I first met his 10yr old self, and all the little memorable moments in between. We've come a lonnnng way in our SM/SK relationship.
---> Ah yes...all those 'happy' bonding moments. Coming home from a long day at work to find your home complete trashed and everyone sitting around in their undershorts asking when supper was going to be ready because they are STARVING. Which you don't understand once you get a look at the kitchen...not only is every dish in the house dirty, but the week's worth of groceries you bought the day before are gone. :)
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ssmom79
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Love it! SS is a senior this year and I am excited for the day he makes his trek across to grab that diploma. We need more good life updates from you guys!!
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BeachBabeRN
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Loc: VA for 21 years, NC forever!
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Excited for you jj, I remember what you went through previously and I'm so pleased that things have gone **relatively** smoothly these last few years.
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youngatheart
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Awesome! Don't you just love drama-free milestones? I am very thankful that Ex and I have the relationship we do.
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annieo
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Loc: Pacific Northwest
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"I'm standing there ironing Mr 6'2's stuff and remembering when I first met his 10yr old self, and all the little memorable moments in between. We've come a lonnnng way in our SM/SK relationship."
I have to say that my ss and I always had a really great relationship (I met him when he was six) and now that he is older it is even better (he will be 30 in July) and lately since he is off of work due to an injury he stops by all the time to chat and I am loving it =) He is becoming a fine man in many respects and is nice to see him really believe in himself.
Since the passing of my father-in-law my sd and I are having a closer relationship (like we did when she was younger) and I am loving it - to be back where we once were. I had to step back as she became an adult and wanted to try to have a better relationship with her mother (her mother is one that is of the belief that if sd and I have a good relationship - they cannot). I think having the first "big" loss of sd's grandfather is making her realize she needs to make the most of everyday with all of us. I am thrilled because she tells me she loves me - she hadn't done that in a long time and we talk everyday again now. She is here visiting her Grandma and I just love our long talks and spending time with my grandsons - it truly is a blessing to be included at this level once again. I always knew it would get better as long as I was patient because we always shared a strong bond =)
Glad you are reaping the benefits of a drama free relationship - it truly is the best for everyone involved =)
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M5M5
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That's awesome!! I wish we could have that kind of relationship with my skids BM. Never happen though, and we've come to accept it. We actually just feel sorry for her now. And happy that she's left us alone, for the most part, for the past year.
Congrats!
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finz
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Greatpost....glad you guys had a great day, jj !
and it was nice to see a non OT post here
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Runswithscissors
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YAY!!! Happy for you all!
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