elliesmom
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I guess it rubs me the wrong way because given how casually she enters into and leaves relationships - apparently the mom-child one is also transient for her as well. And that is sad. For her actual kids.
I don't generally refer to my SKs at all on FB. I do occasionally post photos but I don't identify them other than tagging them (since they are on FB). My SS does list me as his mother even though his mother is on FB and his friend. He did it, I decided to approve it since he was an adult at that point and could do whatever he wanted. Had he been still a kid I might have thought about it a bit more.
Honestly the main reason I don't refer to them as "mine" is because it is very obvious they are not. We look nothing alike and I am not biologically old enough to be SS mother and SD, well, - I would have been a randy junior high school girl. So people usually are already looking at me strangely trying to figure out if I travel with a babysitter or what. Its just simpler to introduce them as "stepkid" and they get it and we move on.
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Runswithscissors
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the fact that she's doing that on FB actually would be the least of my concerns... instead, the opinion of her overall as a just being shitty ass mom would be more of my concern.... WHO does that?? Familes can't be desposible like that... especially her own... To leave a child for someone on facebook is insane.... and if i was the dad's to these kids... I'd go for full custody...totally unstable.
But yes... it would irk the hell out of me to have someone do that and if I was the BM in this situation, I'd eat her sorry, pathetic ass for lunch.... I'd tell her she's not a mom to her own kids much less MINE.
Edited by Runswithscissors (06/15/12 11:26 AM)
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Runswithscissors
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My ex did not like the fact that out daughter called my hubs daddy x.... her "dad" was daddy and my hubs was daddy X... it was something she started after we had our son...
Now, she refers to him by his name. He raised hell about it for 2 years and finally I got her to stop doing it.... It took me going behind her and say oh you mean x....
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ssmom79
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My sister is an idiot. She's moved cross country twice for people she met on a video game WITH her son. ON A VIDEO GAME.....WITH HER SON! I mean, what is her deal!?
My nephew's father is a real treat. I think his dad has 4 kids with 4 women and is engaged to a woman who has 3 kids from 3 dads. Seven kids under one roof with seven different parents. He got fixed after this last one. Bunch of freaking idiots.
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Avaya
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Yeah, I think it's weird (and irresponsible) for her to be in and out of relationships and claiming the child of the flavor of the month 'mine'. Most likely she has some 'issues' she's not addressing.
As for calling steps 'mine' - not only do I call my SD mine, those who are my FB friends have probably seen her refer to herself as mine as well, lol. This has nothing to do with the great mother/daughter relationship she has with her own mother but rather the relationship she and I have built over time. Time that your sister hasn't invested in her present situation.
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gr8Dad
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*****APPLAUDS AND STANDS*******
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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gr8Dad
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But that is who she is. You can hide it, try to enforce it in court, do whatever, but the bottom line is that you have to let the relationship develop. It will become what it becomes.
Adult children have there own adult relationships with parents, good and bad. It has to develop into what it will be, and we will not always be there to protect them, so they have to build a defense and a manner of dealing with it. Think of it as a flu shot for crappy parental acts.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Cassie23
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Oh I am sure that's it. Just like she already has plans for her new BF to be her son's new Dad. The same plans she had for her son and her last BF. She allowed her son and her last BF to Skype for MONTHS, then she moved in decided he didn't "make enough money" and moved out. Her son was devastated.
Her son and his father don't have a close relationship. However she had no problem leaving him there for months to go play house with the new BF.
I don't mind calling someone your "son" or "daughter" when you have been there for them, when you have a STRONG relationship built over time. Yet this one...well I'm not so sure I even believe this will be the last one. She still complains about him not making a lot of money so I tend to think she will split if she has a better opportunity.
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javajunkiee
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I nominate this for Most Rational Post of the Year - Stepfamily Category.
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MEBlack
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AMEN to GECKO!
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