SRS
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So, why the call to the attorney?
What about the pediatrician for some actual advice on how to handle things?
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Nicole
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He was not able to make the hearing so it got rescheduled to later this month. He was on a conference call with the court when they set up the GAL.
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annieo
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I thought this was reported and am surprised it wasn't. A social worker is a mandated reporter so I don't understand why (even with family) it isn't being reported? If I were your sister I wouldn't give any more advice to you because she knows of the instance and hasn't reported it (she can get face consequences) is it because everyone is wanting counseling for the child involved - it doesn't seem like the counseling is happening?? Everyone better hope this child doesn't try to play doctor or what have you with the neighborhood girls and then it comes out that the child had previous encounters. If this is an instance that is not handled correctly....
It looks like (my opinion) that BM wants to keep the kids away from your home but at the same time she has two daughters in her home who are at risk and she is not taking the steps to protect them? The child that did this is (I think around 12) that is not playing doctor or I'll show you mine if you show me yours - at 12 this child should know that it is not right to "play" with his younger sister - how old is the sister - I thought she was quite a bit younger?
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elliesmom
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I am not sure which call you are referring to, but they already had retained the attorney as they were working to modify the decree so it only makes sense that they would seek that persons advice. That is what they are paying for.
I assume the reason her DH was at the hearing without an attorney was a desire to not delay the procedings any further - because they easily could have gotten a continuance when their attorney could not appear. Personally - I would have represented myself also.
Frankly - I think you should bow out of this discussion. You clearly cannot empathize with her situation. He may be "just a SK" to her in your eyes, but the reality is that he is her beloved husbands child and half brother to her daughter. If you could throw your own son into juvie and throw away the key - fine. Her husband can't and she won't interfere with that. Continuously attacking a seeking inconsistencies is not productive. If she wanted to screw with people - she could be an unmarried 40 yo virgin male having fun for all we KNOW. Or she could be someone who is genuinely going through what is probably the worst thing I could imagine as a parent - being torn between two of your children. Having some compassion - not a bad thing.
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Nicole
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I don't know where DH was mentioned as being in court for that hearing but he was not. He is going to the hearing later this month. Lawyer had already told DH that the hearing for the suspension of time would be set for another date since he (the lawyer) was not able to be there last week.
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Nicole
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My sister is a social worker and is mandated to report abuse. Since this was child on child she was not mandated to report it, she would have been if it was adult on child. As much as my sister loves me and would protect me should would never risk her job to cover up something and I knew/know that which why she is the first call I made. I couldn't be the one to report it if it had to be.
He might be my stepson but he is my son in my heart and this is me being pulled in both directions because it is affecting both of your kids.
ETA: and yes to this date BM has not notified of getting SS into any counseling. We had to cancel the one we had set up for this week and already have rescheduled for next week.
Edited by Nicole (06/21/12 11:49 AM)
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Arden
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Nicole, I am seeing a lot said about lawyers, GALS, your sister and counselors, all for the SS. That is all well and good and should be done.
However, I have to ask, what are you doing for your daughter? Do you have her in some kind of counseling? Without knowing the details it is hard to say how much trauma your daughter suffered and is suffering from. Thing is with her being molested, she has suffered a trauma and she is the victim. All of your focus should be on her at this time. Let others deal with SS, courts, judges and GALS.
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SRS
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In this post, Nicole SAID she called the attorney when this happend. In this post. I seriously don't understand why you'd feel the need to call your attorney. Pediatrician, BM, CPS, police, Emergency Room, Rape Crisis Center....
....I think something in her story isn't adding up. Never has.
Sounds like she's trying to win over the BM in a contest over custody. Forgotten about the kids and is interested in WINNING.
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ivehadit
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Reged: 05/22/12
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What in the world is Nicloe hoping to exactly 'win' here?
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SRS
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You'd have to ask her. I don't understand why she's not interested in maintaining a safe place for her daughter to live. Let emotions cool off a bit and the court stuff happen. Have her husband pay child support. Quit poking BM. Take a breath.
A 12 year old molested a 4 year old supposedly. The 4 year old needs her attention and care. Counseling to deal with the trauma.
She's more interested in winning something against BM at this point. Perhaps it is her chance to prove she's better than BM? Not sure.
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