Runswithscissors
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Facts:
16 year old turning 17 in August
for bday wants a "legal" tattoo.... on ribcage (legal as in a nearby state will tattoo a 17 year old with parents consent in a legit, legal atmosphere).
17 year old is a college freshmen
Would you do it or allow it?
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ssmom79
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My SS is 18 years old. For his 17th birthday his parents agreed to give him a tattoo. Personally? I think your body becomes your body at 18 and if you want to run out and tattoo your body after you're 18, go ahead. But hey, his parents made him so he got a tattoo.
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spinnerdegrassi
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Eh, she'll get it done with/without permission. I got my first one at age 15. My other 2 at 17 and 18. So 1/3 were done legally. I'd say no, but I'd expect her to attempt to circumvent it.
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annieo
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How long has she been wanting the tattoo? Has she had the design picked out for some time or is it a spontaneous decision?
I got my first tattoo at 30 years old; I never really wanted one before then.
An individual changes so much between 18 and 25 that I wonder if she will want what she gets a few years down the road.... If/when she decides to have children if the tattoo is in an area where it would stretch during pregnancy and not look the same after I would not tattoo that area.
ETA: I assumed it was a girl but by your description, maybe not? A boy I would be more likely to allow it, discrimination....maybe.
Edited by annieo (08/02/12 01:12 PM)
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ssmom79
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Excellent points annieo. I have a friend who got a sun tattoo around her belly button. Then she had three kids. She now has a really wrinkly sun. Ugh, she hates it.
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english7
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"Eh, she'll get it done with/without permission. I got my first one at age 15. My other 2 at 17 and 18. So 1/3 were done legally. I'd say no, but I'd expect her to attempt to circumvent it."
I'm curious why you would say no even though you got tattoos at 15 , 17 and 18.
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Runswithscissors
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Yes... it's a girl (my daughter)
She's been wanting one since she was 15. I did not get my first until I was 39.... and it has meaning.
She has two designs she likes... both have signaficant meaning and both are beautiful. As I said, she wants it on her rib cage. The two designs are a mixture of a tattoo she saw and she drew it herself. (she's put thought into this).
One is a Mask (she collects Mardi gra masks).... her grandmother (dad's mom) always gives her one for her bday and xmas. On the mask (to signafiy her grandmother) there are streamers and the streamers turn to butterflies.... she wants one of the streamers to signify her... her sister and her brother. she wants it on her left side rib cage and it's not huge.... a tanki bathing suit would cover it.
The other is a feather that turns to birds and it has a lyric from her favorite beatles song that I use to sing to her as a child.
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craftywoman
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When my daughter was 16..she wanted some ink..I didn't think it was a good idea, but she kept bugging me. So when she turned 17, I surprised her on Christmas Eve and took her to get one. I wanted to be there to make sure she got something tasteful. She decided on just her name. Her first name is different and she wanted something that basically no one else would have. She is now 27 and it's still the only ink she has ever gotten. I was happy that she had the smarts to not get something she would want to remove later.
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Sherron
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"I'm curious why you would say no even though you got tattoos at 15 , 17 and 18. "
Because she is the parent. And presumably smarter than she was at 15, 17, and 18. I've made a few mistakes growing up, that does not mean that I have to say "yes" to my children making the same ones. Oh, and because she is the parent.
Have a discussion, hear her out, but ultimately, if you'd say "no", then stick with "no"... "I expect her to circumvent it" is not a reason to say "yes".
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ssmom79
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So would you do it or allow it?
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