boilerbrat2000
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My son and I are not talking...his girlfriend(the mother of my 8 month old twin grandbabies) has NEVER liked me, and has made that well known to other people.Now my son won't even return my calls.I haven't decided if it is because of his fear of making her mad(he is afraid to lose his kids if she goes wacko again), or if he has some long-standing anger towards me. I have tried EVERYTHING to get thru to my son to no avail.I am prepared to go to court to seek visitation with my grandson and grand daughter if necessary, but I REALLY don't want to take my son to court!
What do I do?!? I am losing my mind crying daily missing those babies.
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Buckeye
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Don't do it because almost no courts will give you rights for visitation if YOUR son doesn't want you to see them.
I know this will be hard to do but just stop bothering them. Maybe he will come to his senses soon.
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Rebecca5
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Some states award grandparent rights....some don't. If your state is one that does, it will be an expensive undertaking that may gain you something like 1 day a month. I'd be patient and wait.
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Buckeye
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Most states will not award grandparent rights IF the parent is still alive and doesn't want visitation to happen.
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boilerbrat2000
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I have kept trying because I didn't want him to think I had written them off....even though they have. I heard from my son's grandmother(his dad's mom with whom he has frequent contact) that Mali,my granddaughter, had to have bloodwork done because a spot she has had on her hand since birth is changing in size and color. I left him a message that I was worried and I wanted, and had a RIGHT to know, what was going on with my granddaughter. Guess what?! NO RESPONSE....I am dealing with skin cancer myself, and am so afraid that this precious baby has inherited something from me, which I think the doctors should know about, but I can't do that either.People have told me to just "show up" and demand to see them, but knowing HER, she'd have me arrested....I for the life of me do not know why this girl hates me. I have never done or said anything to her. The only reasoning I can come up with is she never had a close relationship with ANYone in her family, and thus expects Chris(my son) to do the same.....
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Buckeye
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[quote]and had a RIGHT to know [/quote]
I can see the problem right now. You DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT to know. You may want to know, you may be worried, you may be interested, but you DO NOT have the RIGHT to know.
Back off before they get a RO against you. YOU are making the situation worse.
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Maury
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"Most states will not award grandparent rights IF the parent is still alive and doesn't want visitation to happen."
Proviso: So long as neither parent supports the visitation.
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boilerbrat2000
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I am at my wits end...I CANNOT just set back and forget about my grandchildren, especially when one may be facing serious health issues! PLEASE do not tell me that I am the problem here.I have done NOTHING but try to help these kids.I need some serious advice, NOT criticism.The only thing I have not done, is go to where my son works and talk to him face to face.
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boilerbrat2000
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what if the parents are not married? Here's a twist to this whole thing also....SHE called a couple of weeks ago(while I was at church) and left a message that the kids would be at their great Grandma's house, and if I wanted to see them, that would be a good time.That really threw me off, because she is the one I believe to be the source of all this discontent and strain in my relationship with my son.
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boilerbrat2000
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Cost is not an object when it comes to my babies...NO, I DON'T have the money to fight it, nor do I have the emotional capacity to go thru it..all I am saying is, I would do anything to see those babies.(and yes, I really want to see my son)
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