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sheila64
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Is it abuse... can I do anything
      #106646 - 04/30/06 07:14 AM

My husband is very verbally abusive to me and my son.... so far nothing physical...... Is there anything I can do????

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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: sheila64]
      #106651 - 04/30/06 09:11 AM

Verbal abuse is still abuse. It doesn't leave physical scars but it leaves emotional ones. You and your son should get counseling to deal with the turmoil that your husband is inflicting. Try to get him to go too, but abusers often don't think they have a problem.

I'm not sure what you mean by is there anything you can do? Are you afraid that the verbal abuse will escalate into physical abuse? If so, you might want to contact a women's shelter and figure out an escape plan if it ever does happen.

Are you wanting to divorce him b/c of this? Verbal abuse falls under extreme cruelty if you're in a "fault" state.

Good luck and I hope everything turns out ok.


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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: hippie1981]
      #106652 - 04/30/06 09:50 AM

Sheila,
You can File an Restraining Order against him. They arent body armor but maybe something to show him he cant treat you this way without MORE consequences.

Good Luck with whatever you do!


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An RO... [Re: F25Divorced]
      #106690 - 04/30/06 08:43 PM

is not a valid option unless she is truly afraid of him. If he just uses verbal abuse and has not made actual "threats", and if she has no fear that he would follow through with anything physical, there should be no need for an RO.

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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: F25Divorced]
      #106799 - 05/01/06 01:17 PM

You can File an Restraining Order against him.

---> No court is going to issue a restraining order because he called her fat, ugly and stupid (just an example). The purpose of a RO to keep one person from PYSICALLY harming another.

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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: Gecko]
      #108057 - 05/04/06 08:47 PM

In a custody evaluation, it was pointed out to me that what my ex had done to me was considered abuse. Sometimes when you're so close to the situation, you can't even see it. He would tower over me, corner me, point in my face... with his veins popping, totally enraged (all over stupid control issues). I COULD have filed a restraining order because of the fear he caused.

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To MetalMom [Re: MetalMom]
      #108086 - 05/04/06 10:42 PM

Given the information you provided, yes, you could have obtained a restraining order. Your husband was enraged, he was physically intimdating (sp) you, and you were trapped.

But again, the poster has made no claims of anything "threatening" and you cannot get a RO for calling some "stupid".

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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: sheila64]
      #108257 - 05/05/06 04:49 PM

Go ahead and exaggerate the abuse. It will help you get $$ and that is what all women do...Don't feel too guilty...Everyone does it...
Kinda like going 70 when the speed limit is 65mph. All women use the abuse argument during divorce. It works, it is a lie, and no one cares...

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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: Muad_Dib]
      #108259 - 05/05/06 04:55 PM

If you want a poster boy supporting the proposition that abuse should be prevented ---I give you Muad.

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Poster boy?... [Re: Maury]
      #108284 - 05/05/06 09:54 PM

Why would you put down boys in that manner? What have boys done to you? I would not, on my worst day, compare Muad to anything even remotely human-like. ;)

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Re: Poster boy?... [Re: almostheaven]
      #108302 - 05/05/06 11:51 PM

Okay--remove the word "boy" and the sentence works. It allows everyone viewing the poster to draw their own conclusion as to what is depicted.

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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: sheila64]
      #807127 - 01/22/14 02:00 PM

[quote]My husband is very verbally abusive to me and my son.... so far nothing physical...... Is there anything I can do???? [/quote]

Well be sure to tell themm all what you and Mikey did to my 7YO


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Re: Is it abuse... can I do anything [Re: A_Divorced_Guy]
      #807129 - 01/23/14 08:04 AM

Uh, divorced guy? You might want to note that this post is close to eight years old.....

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