LouisLee
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I'm more or less asking this for my girlfriend. She is in the process of getting a divorce from her husband. The two of us actually dated before she got married and had a son together. Skip forward a few years and we're back together with this divorce pending. While they were married for 3 years, he became partner in a start-up company that has done quite well since it began. She was a stay-at-home mom the entire time to her two children. Here's the question---Will she be entitled to anything monetarily even though she had an affair? Her husband is aware that we are living together and has made no objections, he's only contesting custody. Will a judge award her any percentage of what the company is worth? Thanks!
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LouisLee
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This is in Alabama...hope that helps!
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joan
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Probably, but this type of question always irritates me. Turn the question around. If it was you in his situation what do you think your opinion would be. What's legal and what’s really fair are sometimes two different things. What did she contribute to the business? How much effort did she put into the business? Where would she have been financially if she had not married and had not had any children by him? What did she sacrifice by staying at home?
My personal opinion is that one adult should not take advantage of another adult to better themselves. So, again where would she be financially if she had never married and why should she be any better off just because she got married?
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LouisLee
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Well, when she married him, he didn't have this company. His job actually put him in the lower middle class, which was fine with her. She obviously didn't marry him for his money. When he was approached with the offer at a partnership, she had a 15 mo. old child and was 6 mos. pregnant with her second child. He would have to go and spend weeks away from her at a time and this continued for several years. She had two in diapers, two mouths to (literally) feed, two to look after with no help whatsoever. I think she did a great deal of sacrificing. It put her near a nervous breakdown at several points. He was also arrested for beating her while she was pregnant with their second child...so, yeah, I think she's owed something. He's not such a stand-up guy.
So, the answer was...yes? That a judge would probably award her monetarily?
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LouisLee
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Oh, and also, she sacrificed going to school at night time because he was gone to different states for weeks at a time. There was never any kind of set schedule that she could rely on to plan for her career or education. She was just told to wait, wait, and do some more waiting...to put her life on hold while he was gone 80% of the time.
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Sweet1
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I can understand why she had an affair. I feel the pain in that one. I don't know an answer to help you out though. Seeking answers here myself. My husband had the affairs, he was gone for 80% of the time, he is rich. I remained faithful. I hope she is getting better emotionally. I am a basket case, still in our home, and financially cannot leave since I am unemployed. Plus, we have $50K in debt from trying to have a child with infertility doctor while he was having two affairs. He is the one infertile, not me. I missed having children, having a husband that adored me, and my career. My emotional state is fragile and in counseling and on medication for depression and panic attacks. People don't believe me when I tell them what has happened. Yes, I feel so alone. Just now strong enough to try and get legal advice. Found out on Valentine's Day last month. What a great day that was for me. Dang. :(
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