Buckeye
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Don't worry about it until it happens. First of all, in order to file, she would have to get an attorney and have some evidence of harrassment.
Living on the opposite coast, physical harrassment would be out. She should have to prove e-mail or telephone harrassment.
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elliesmom
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Reged: 11/07/05
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I believe it is [censored] whether you "guess" it or a computer program guesses it for you. I would stop, since it is not hard to figure out that someone has done this. All he needs to do is check the last IP address he signed on from. It would show YOUR computer's address. It is very possible he already knows that you do and is deliberately planting emails to upset you.
I did it with an ex that I found out was going into my email account. I sent a very explicit email to a guy friend (who was in on it) about what a man he was and how ex-boyfriend was SO lousy in bed. It was very detailed about his shortcomings. I wish I could have been a fly on that wall when he read it. Then (after I made sure he had read it) I changed my [censored] and moved on. I never spoke to the loser reading my email ever again.
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koritora3
journeyman
Reged: 06/15/06
Posts: 69
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I agree that it's not ethical at all. Neither is having an affair. It's become a bit of an addiction and I find it hard to stop. I know I should be the better person. Easy to say, hard to do. :(
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DGH
recently joined
Reged: 07/20/06
Posts: 20
Loc: CT
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My ex tried numerous times to get into my email account, finally succeeding after the 7th try and proceeded to email someone I had dated. I thought that was one of the worse things she has ever done and will hold onto those emails for future reference!
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koritora3
journeyman
Reged: 06/15/06
Posts: 69
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were you still married?
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 20822
Loc: North of Mexico
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YOu know a civilian who worked under my H in Oklahoma ha ck ed into her H's computer at work and was fired from her job over it. He made a huge stink about it, and filed charges-what they were I do not know-and they were still married. He used it as character evidence during his custody hearing.
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KiwiGirl
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Reged: 06/09/05
Posts: 6271
Loc: Plains State
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He sounds like he is doing anything to make her happy.
Their whole world is surrounded in secrecy and hiding and 'no one understands how we feel' and star crossed lovers etc.
And what happens when he is 'free' of you? Then they have no one to hate, no one to dispise or blame for their situation. They will fall apart.
Just keep your distance and smile a lot. I drives them crazy! My ex lived in another country before we actually divorced and whenever he was in my country he would ask "What are you smilign about? What's going on?"
"Nothing. Just... nothing" And I would walk away humming some song. I was so damned happy all the time it drove him insane!
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DGH
recently joined
Reged: 07/20/06
Posts: 20
Loc: CT
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No, we were divorced but we worked in the same building. After I changed my [censored], I had numerous attempts on my account that showed someone was trying to get in again. I confronted her about it, she denied everything, but for some strange reason, there has not been a single attempt in the three years since I asked her about it! So, I guess the bottom line is, instead of making yourself crazy with the things you see or read, and to prevent it from being used against you in the future, and because it is the wrong thing to do, let him go live his life the way he chooses. If he is wrong, then it will come back to him in one form or another.
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AngiKay
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Reged: 02/22/06
Posts: 175
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Koritora, why continue to torture yourself, whether it is legal to do what you are doing or not? If it hurts you or makes you angry, then that is your own fault for viewing things that you know you shouldn't. Let him go. Who cares if his SO thinks she can get a restraining order against you. If it is true that you have never contacted her in any way, then you should have nothing to worry about. If, however, your ex and his SO know that you are spying on them and invading their privacy by reading their PRIVATE emails and viewing their vacation photos, etc., I think I would want a RO against you, too. I am not trying to sound harsh, and I hope that you don't think I am, but if I found out that my ex was spying on me like that, you can bet I would take any legal action I could to put a stop to it.
For your own benefit, control the urge to access his private accounts, not only from a legal standpoint (if there are any,) but also for your own emotional well-being. It is not healthy, nor is it going to help you let go of the past and move on to a happier future as long as you continue to do this. Good luck.
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ZeeBabester
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Reged: 09/06/04
Posts: 66
Loc: CT, by the shore, with my hub...
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;) Ah yes....living well is the best revenge!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :grin: ;)
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