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Sonya
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Soon to be Ex only wants to see one kid
      #1338 - 08/11/04 07:05 PM

My soon to be Ex-husband only wishes to see our oldest daughter, and only at his discretion. We have three little girls, the younger two he pays no attention to at all. He's said he wouldn't mind having her live with him, since she's his first baby. He doesn't even want visitation rights to our other two kids, and I think it's wrong for him to try and seperate the kids like that, but I don't want to get into a huge custody battle in court. Also, he never holds down a steady job for more than a few months, and is very unreliable in actually spending time with oldest daughter when he promises to. What should I do???

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That's awful! [Re: Sonya]
      #1339 - 08/11/04 07:20 PM

What type of a proposal is he suggesting? Is he willing to give you sole custody of the children? How old are the children? That's going to cause problems down the road as the younger ones will feel rejected. Of course, I'm betting that he'll drop the older one too when it's too inconvenient for him to be a parent.

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Sonya
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Re: That's awful! [Re: Melody]
      #1344 - 08/11/04 07:56 PM

The kids are 28 months, 16 months and 2 months. He's willing to let me have sole custody of the younger two, but wants visitation rights when it's convenient for him with our oldest child. I think it's unfair to all of our kids. In my opinion he should either stay out of their lives or be a apart of all of their lives, not just one. But, like I said it's an opinion. I guess I should be happy he wants to see one of the kids.

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ALL OR NONE [Re: Sonya]
      #1345 - 08/11/04 08:59 PM

Ew! don't let him do that. That is rediculious. I have heard of things like that before but its usually that one is a boy or something and the dad favors the boy. Does he think that the two smaller ones are not his or something? Did he want to take care of the 2 year old when she was 2 months old? Alot of men like kids when they are older, out of diapers and able to have "fun". Two month olds are more "work" than "fun", but that guy will mess them up big time if he favors one of them. Especially if all three are girls. Tell him "its all or none loser".

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one more thing [Re: jen17]
      #1346 - 08/11/04 09:01 PM

How old is this guy to have such immature thinking????

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Sonya
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Re: one more thing [Re: jen17]
      #1349 - 08/11/04 10:57 PM

He's 29 years old, and seems to be in search of his second teenage-hood. He's decided he's still too young to settle down and have a family. Gee, wish I'd known that about 4.5 years ago, when the only thing he ever talked about was how much he wanted a wife and family. Guys, yeesh!

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