overtherainbow
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Reged: 10/23/04
Posts: 268
Loc: New England
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Advice please other that Jack Daniels. Oh Lordy. I mean we have both and sold 3 houses together smooth as butter when we were happily married. Our realtor quit today as she was going through her own divorce and sort of lost it over a certain party argueing over the cost to pay for pruning a peach tree. . Jeez Louise I wish she had told me that from the get go. I think Madeleine Albreicht had easier negotiations in the Middle East than this. Any advice. We cannot meet with the realtor together and spouse is not speaking to me. I am in the house and want to sell it. Spouse is so angry he is about to burst into flames and seems to have issues with everything.
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matart1
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what is so important that you two cannot negotiate the sale of the house.
the option to lay down is that it is either sold or not.
is one person trying to gain ahead on the sale of the home which could be causing resentment.
someone is going to need to learn to compromise.
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Cinder2
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Loc: Southern California
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hmmmmm..... maybe let the spouse deal with it all if he doesn't like how you're doing it?
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Miranda
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how do you sell a house without communicating?
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Spring
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Hmmm. Well, if he wants to sell, your Realtor can work with you both seperately. If he doesn't want to sell, have him try and buy you out. If he can't and doesn't want to sell...see if you can get a court order. The positive side is that because you are living in the home and he isn't(am I right?) then you can easily show the home and entertain offers. The hard part is getting him to agree to a price and sign off.
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Never consider the possibility of failure; as long as you persist, you will be successful.
Edited by Spring (08/26/06 11:55 AM)
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HHLoanOfficer
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If you are both on the deed. No sense trying to sell until you are both in total agreement. Tell him/her we can let our lawyers settle it and then they will take more of the proceeds... that will probably bring some agreement.
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LinusluvsSally
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Loc: South Florida
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At least you're motivated. I was trying to get my exwife to sell the house she agreed to sell last year in August. In that time she quit paying the mtge, quit paying the homeowners association, and quit any upkeep whatsoever. Highly motivated to sell, eh?
I gave her an ultimatum that I would either take her to court on, oh i don't know, about 163 counts of contempt, or she could let me buy her out for an amount that equaled 1/4th of the equity she would have earned had she done what she agreed to in the first place.
Now I have money to fix it up and make it sell. And the faster I do it the more I make. She cost me a freaking fortune.
Have your lawyer file a motion to compel and get him off his ass.
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overtherainbow
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Reged: 10/23/04
Posts: 268
Loc: New England
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2nd realtor just quit. One of the problems I am having is that I have to communicate with stbx through either realtor or attorney and things are getting really mixed up and hostile.
I am in house and am arranging repairs and have to sit around here --you know taking up my time letting repair people in the house. I asked through realtor that stbx go drive to Hardware store and buy various widgets that are broken and need to be replaced --that I would pay 1/2 for widgets and 1/2 to install widgets and make the arrangements . He said he does not want to do that because "his time is more valuable than mine". He is high income professional--little ole me is taking classes, trying to find job and trying to find new place to live and trying to make all arrangements to fix house and sell it and am very busy as well . Am I being unrealistic asking him to donate time to stand in line to buy widgets and make a couple of dump runs just to get the show on the road and some division of labor. Is it up to the spouse in the house to do all time and work to sell the house ?? He has a lot of junk here in garage that just needs to be hauled to dump. The realtor even implied that his time was more valuable than mine and that I should be the one to spend time finding and buying the needed widgets. I found this insulting.
How do you fix and sell a house with a stbx that will neither assist nor communicate?? We both want to sell but he won't lift a finger and I don't feel it is fair that I should have to do everything.
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Spring
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I would hire a handy man and ask your stbx to contribute 1/2 the bill. I would find the inference that someone's time is more valuable than mine insulting too. Keep in mind that divorce is often 'unfair' to one or both parties. Accept that and move ahead with your plans to sell. The goal here is to get rid of your ex and anything that keeps you tied to him. If it means you take control of the situation, so be it.
Some Realtors do have compassion. Still, their job is to sell your home, not mediate any negotiations between the two of you...although I have been successful at both, lol. Hopefully your next Realtor has some compassion for the difficult situation you're in.
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LinusluvsSally
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Loc: South Florida
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Fair or not, if the house is going to be sold then one of you is going to have to bite the bullet and get the work done.
Forward progress will not come as the result of a staring match waiting for the other party to blink.
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