mommynurse
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but, she has been putting the moves on him. He'd had a bad day at the office and when she sat a little too close to him and started to take food off of his plate, it sent him over the edge.
He says he has been trying to gently get the point across to her that he wasn't interested in pursuing an extramarital affair, but the chic wasn't taking no for an answer.
He has apologized to me and realizes why I got so upset. He said as soon as he saw the look on my face, he knew that he had scared me. But, at that point, he couldn't take it back. He also thought the situation would have gotten worse if he would have ran after me when I was leaving. Given my history, he was probably right. I would have been terrified if I thought he was trying to make me stay. I thought I had those issues behind me, but now, I'm thinking I may need some more counseling.
Now, I'm not quite sure how to deal with her.....
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Rebecca5
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Counseling never hurts....especially if your baggage is feeling heavy again.
As for her...I really don't know. My instinct is to confront her and *ask* her if she's really hitting on your husband or if he's misunderstanding her behavior. Even if she WAS hitting on him, it lets her know that YOU are onto the game. Politely say that...for now....given how uncomfortable your DH has become....it's probably better that she keep her kids and her other parts out of your pool.....your entire "pool."
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matilda
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I agree that she needs to keep her distance. It is completely disrespectful what she did.
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YahYah
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He was being hit on by this other woman who has emotional issues... or whatever... and I'd just tell her the kids can play together or whatever, but no more "couples" time... She should get the picture quite clearly if there's anything between her ears.
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Rebecca5
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There was a woman who lived across the street from us....we'll call her Gina. Gina was 40something....had been a bartender for years...rarely wore a top that really covered her enormous breasts...and lived for summertime when she could wear those little hot pants. She's very...ummm...friendly. Yes...."friendly" is a good word. The kind of person who always has to touch you when she's talking to you......hugs you at every greeting or parting....
The thing about her is that she really was a lovely woman. She would have done anything for anyone in need (I know....SO many jokes to be had there)...and never thought twice about it. She wasn't "loose," just...friendly. It took me a LONG time to get used to her way of doing things. I did confront her one day and let her know that her touching DH made us both really uncomfortable. She used to make DH really, really uncomfortable. She was completely shocked. That's just the way people in her family are....and after meeting them, I completely believed her.
I don't know if the hand-licker is that kind of woman....but it is possible that she didn't mean any harm (without knowing her). Gina would have totally eaten off of DH's plate and not thought twice about it until I asked her to stop. She was really kind of hurt for a while, I think....but we all got past it.
The hand-licker may be looking for a little afternoon delight...but I wouldn't assume anything.
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mommynurse
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gives "desperate housewife" it's meaning. They have a huge home, new cars...everything you would think would make life perfect. But, the price tag on their lifestyle means that the hubby almost lives at work. For 16 hr/d, she is alone with only her 3 kids for company. I can see why she needs medications to help her thru the day. I can also (sort of) understand why she flirts w/ my H. He's usually home in the evenings, is an attentive husband, helps around the house, plays with the kids, and he's kind of easy on the eyes. In the months that she's lived next to us, I've seen her hubby twice. Once leaving for work and once coming home from work. And he's not much to look at...
I might be naive, but I thinks she's harmless. I think she was just looking for some attention. Obviously, she didn't find what she was looking for here, so I think she'll move on.
On a funnier note, I might be interested in sharing. Maybe then I could get some sleep (lol)!
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MetalMom
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Nicest person you ever want to meet! She's a very loving person & she shows it. It's nothing sexual though. Her family is very open. At first, I was a little uncomfortable with her, but as time went on, she became my best friend. She wears revealing clothing & men ogle her all the time. But she's not looking to steal anyone's man, in fact, she's very offended if a married man comes on to her. Is the lady Italian? My family isn't overly affectionate, so I was a little uncomfortable with my high school boyfriend's family because they hugged so much. He was very affectionate. I think he taught me to be more affectionate & I'm grateful for that.
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mommynurse
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I don't know if she'd give me the shirt off of her back, but she does give me the laundry detergent to clean my own (her hubby's upper management at Colgate-Palmolive).
While we are not exactly friends, I do enjoy talking to her when our kids are playing together. She's a scatter-brained dingbat, but she's loads of fun. She's wreckless and I'm more reserved. Her personality is very entertaining to me for some reason.
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Susanf31
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Sorry, but I think you are all sticking your heads in the sand. His reaction was not one of someone just being frusturated that she was flirting with him.
He literally threw her to the ground and scared you so badly you felt you had to leave.
That kind of reaction just because some lonely woman was wanting attention?? I don't think so.
I think something happened between them during one of those kid's playtimes...when they were the only two adults around.
I think she is either threating to tell, so he has to make her look like a liar before she does...so no one will believe her. Or, there is something going on between them and he got so furious because she dared to show it while you were around.
Sorry, but his reaction to a tomato is not "normal" if something more serious is not going on behind the scenes.
You should talk to this woman and get her side of what is possibly going on. However, your H might have her so scared and shaken right now that she won't tell either.
In any respect, your H throwing a woman to the ground FOR ANY REASON and making you so terrified that you ran out of the house and were afraid to speak to him about it shows that he really needs some help.
I hope you get it...as he has the makings and is showing the signs of an abuser that could really hurt you or someone else in the future.
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Rebecca5
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That's a lot of drama. No where does it say that he "threw her to the ground."
She got too close for comfort and he pushed her away. She fell onto the coffee table. No, it's not okay for anyone to put their hands on another person in anger....but it's not quite as Law and Order as you're making it sound.
If YOU were threatening to rat someone out about something....would them "throwing you to the ground" make you less or more inclined to rat them out?
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