GAgirl
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Also, I already know that he does have a side job as a tandem skydiving instructor, on the weekends though. He has invited me to come watch, but a running injury and cancellation due to the weather have prevented me from going.
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gr8Dad
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...but just because one choses their p0rn actors as young as legally possible, does NOT mean anything. Honestly, if you were to purchase a women's p0rn magazine, would you want to see young bucks, 18-20, with tight bodies, or middle aged men covered with greying hair and saggy skin? Be HONEST.
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GAgirl
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And I understand what you're saying too. I would never choose any type of man in a magazine over an intimate relationship with a real person. It doesn't really matter at this point anyway. The p*rn was an ongoing issue in our marriage, as was him refusing to contribute financially...I didn't realize he was dating until towards the end.
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Melanie1
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Hi GAgirl,
I could be wrong, but I'd be very suspicious about the 'dates only during the day' thing. This summer, I dated a guy who I was quite taken with. He was witty, funny, smart, talented, and I thought we had alot in common. When we went out, we had a great time. I enjoyed every minute.
But the one thing that bugged me was that our dates were also almost exclusively during the day. The only time we had an evening date was when he asked me over for a bbq. Since I had plans during that day, but not in the evening, I asked if we could do the bbq after 5pm. He said he had other plans, but would see if he could change them.
About an hour later he called back and said he was able to change his other plans, and for me to come over around 6. I did and we had a great time. Things seemed to progress nicely and I was happy.
I later learned from someone who knew him REALLY well that there was another woman in his life. She lives out of state and they have had a long-distance relationship for years. And that when they're not together, this guy dates. But he somehow thinks if the dates are during the day, he's not cheating on her! Even when he put the moves on someone (like me!). Convoluted thinking I must say, but thats how he thought. Sort of like how Bill Clinton argued over the point of "what is, is", lol. And that a certain kind of s*x, isn't s*x...
Anyway, needless to say, that was the end of the relationship once I learned he was attached. Most likely, I was just a nice distraction to keep him 'company' when the girlfriend wasn't around. So glad I spoke with the friend and learned the truth.
If I were you, I'd definitely do some homework as Nancy suggested (I think it was you Nancy, lol))or at minimum, do what I did. The next time he asks you out for a daytime date, say you're busy, but suggest that evening or the next. See what happens.
Regardless of how the above works out, go slowly! Spend some time alone. More than just a few months. The best gift I have given to myself was taking the time to be alone, on my own, and no dating. I needed the time to heal, to find myself, and figure out what I want and don't want in life. Though I still feel somewhat like a babe in the woods as far as dating goes (having been married for over 20 years and then recovering for another 5), I think I'm much better off having waited.
Let us know how things turn out.
Melanie
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gr8Dad
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You broke up with a guy because of what someone ELSE told you about him? And because he had a female friend out of town?
Sounds like HE was the lucky one...
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Runswithscissors
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Gr8dad,
it is called "barely" legal.. because they are 18 to 19 years old..... come on.. don't act like such a married man.. you see "barely" legal p0Rn on your pay per view channels all the time... (advertised)
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Runswithscissors
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WHAT point does it matter..it's DONE and over with....She can break up with anyone she wants to....... NOT the point!
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Runswithscissors
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Why would you say such a thing... do you get "off" on just being mean? There are a LOT of things you do with your life.. I am sure MANY would not agree with.... so how one chooses to handle their relationship is their choice.
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Melanie1
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Gr8dad,
Everyone once in awhile I respond to posts I normally ignore. This is one of those times.
Funny how you put me down for nipping a relationship in the bud because I learned the guy was heavily involved with someone else, out of state. In other words, the guy was CHEATING on his girlfriend by seeing me. The friend who told me about the guy being attached, has been friends with him for eons and knows him VERY well. So does his wife. I know the couple VERY well. They also know the girlfriend and said what a sweetheart she is. After I heard that, there was no way I could continue a relationship with him.
Your posts present alot of anger, especially towards anyone who has cheated whether it be emotionally or physically or both. Yet, I'm thinking you believe in what's called a double standard. One for you, and one for everyone else.
Melanie
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