tatanaka411
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i am twenty years old and i have only been married seven months. we have not lived together for the past three months. i went back home two weeks ago and just signed papers to keep our house. four days later he tells me he wants a divorce, fter going out two nights in a row. this seemed very shocking to me because he had been telling me how he loved me more than ever and he was going to try harder to make me happy. i asked he repeatedly to try to work it out, think about it and even to go to a mediator. all of which he refused. he has given me no real reason for this and everytime i bring it up he just leaves the house. the next week was his birthday and he decided he was going to chicago with his single friends for the weekend alone. he left on a thursday and did not return until the following monday. the day he came i started doing research thinking possibly there could me another woman. i checked his phone records and i found it. numerous different numbers that he was caling more than mine. so i called everyone back and every number i dialed turned out to ba a different woman. two of the numbers that he called the most turned out to be exes one of six years. this was very hard for me. once confronted him about it he said that they were just friends and he did not tell me because of my attitude. i kicked out of the house and went to file for a divorce. once i got ther ethey turned my away saying that i came on the worng day. my husband told me that he would get me a plane ticket to get to my family but i would have to find a way to get all m=of my other things because a u-haul was to expensive. once i kicked him out though the story changed to a bus ticket that would take me 38 hours to reach my destination. i have no job, no money and no car. the bank account we had together was closed and he opened a new one that i had not had a chance to get my name on. the car he bought a week before we got married and lied saying that he had put my name on title. i dropped out of school to move back with him on short notice and now he is saying that he can not give me money because he has to pay to get back into school. i have not worked since before we got married and now he refuses to pay spousal support. i need to know what to do . i left him thursday to be with my family and they had to pay for a plane ticket.
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Maury
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Better now than in 10 years.
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Miranda
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What is your question? Are you at Scott AFB? Or Great Lakes?
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matart1
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you want spousal support on a 7 month marriage....I really do not see how that will be likely....what would you have invested in a marriage during that time?
consider this a lesson learned and be eternally grateful that you were able to save yourself before you accumulated a lot of debt, time and children....
your young, your employable and you are responsible for yourself.
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Life is a long lesson in humility.
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missunderstood
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I read the other emails and i don't understand the neg. ways . I guess getting kicked when you down might be easy for some, confused although seven months is not long you still put your trust in him. You gave a part of life up to be with him. If you are just seperated, learn the family law of your state , then look to find out how to pull yourself out. If you are still married to him he has to provide some support although it may not be much...for me it is 2/3 his bah. he also invited me to join him after when I went to work he cleaned out the apt. and he cut the electric off. I found his command and told them, were I found that he told a different story to his command. I do say that yes you have found out early in the marriage. Keep your head up and realize not everyone is like that....
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kanieleclayborn
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well, i went thru something similar. the best thing i can tell you to do is to locate some type of legal assistance thru the military. BUTTTTTT, whatever you do, do not make it seem like you are out for money. tell me that you are struggling, what he did. i think it's better to just let it go then to fight. i might, 7 months of marriage. i know you just want to get his azz for hurting you.. but trust me. mine has been dragging on for a year now and i can't even get the papers started because i dont have the money for a lawyer. i have no car, i live on my own with a crappy job because he left me so unexpectadly. find military assistance, get a divorce, and move on
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