Bjay
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Reged: 06/04/05
Posts: 130
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MC Family Support site:
http://sja.hqmc.usmc.mil/jal/FamilySupport/files/15.pdf
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koritora3
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Reged: 06/15/06
Posts: 69
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Thank you. I emailed his CO this morning. Haven't heard anything yet. Hopefully, I will soon. Should I have drafted something formal or legal for notifying his CO?
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Redlegg
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Reged: 10/05/06
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I would venture a guess that the Commander has no idea the support stopped and will do the right thing. It should not be an issue.
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koritora3
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Reged: 06/15/06
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He finally returned an email and said that his CO knew what was going on. I'm not too sure about that, but I still have yet to hear anything. Am I supposed to just go ahead and call the CO or have legal intervene on my behalf?
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
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Loc: North of Mexico
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I don't know what intervention legal will do other than to give your ex guidelines on what he should be paying. I'd contact his CO and email is not going to cut it.
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koritora3
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Reged: 06/15/06
Posts: 69
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Well, now I know his reasoning. We have a gas card in both of our names that I've had to use recently. He's known this and it has not been an issue. But, now since I've interferred in his affair, he's decided to try and "deduct" what I've had to use on the card from my monthly support. I really don't think that's something he can arbitrarily decide to do on his own. If now the card is going to be an issue, then I feel that's something we will have to address in the divorce proceedings. (and if they decide to deduct it, then so be it. that wouldn't really bother me.) Am I way off base here? Like I said, he's never had a problem with me using this card before. Now he's just mad at me and using that as justification.
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
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Loc: North of Mexico
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Usually once a divorce is filed the use of "joint cards" turn into separate cards. Who is paying the bill on these cards? If it is him, he may have a point.
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koritora3
journeyman
Reged: 06/15/06
Posts: 69
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That's understandable. Although he did agree that I could continue to use the card. If he has since changed his mind, all he needed to do was say something. For him to withhold support without notice due to an issue that we had at one time agreed upon I believe to be out of line. If he was in the right, he would have recouped whatever the court determined was mine to pay. No problem. And I would happily oblige. To withhold everything while he sits around and acts like he's "looking into the matter" is not wise. He knows what was agreed to and now is acting like he's in the dark. But, if that's how the system works then I'll have to wait until he decides what to do. Thanks to everyone for your help. :)
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Redlegg
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It sounds a little out of line because of the lack of communication, but if its no problem, figure out what you still owe, never use the card again and let the support continue.
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ZeeBabester
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Reged: 09/06/04
Posts: 66
Loc: CT, by the shore, with my hub...
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Absent a court order specifying the amount that is to be paid, the Soldier does not have to give up any money! It is true that by regulation he is 'required' to support his dependents but instead of getting his Command and everyone else involved interpreting regulations and figuring out amounts, it is easier, quicker and less painless for all parties to get a court order for support and fax it to DFAS and then DFAS will send you the check directly! The Soldier cannot stop or change this direct payment UNLESS a new court order is in place.
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