lvs2sng
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my twins are 7 and the boy does not want to go with the dad when he comes to get them on the weekend. there are times that he even crys quietly. he even said "then i don't want them" when i told him that he would have to go to get his christmas presants--he said he wanted them but did not want to go, at first. i have sole legal and physical cust. the dad says that my son has no choice, he has to go because it is his-dad- time and that it is no options. the dad even got mad when i said that i wanted to go to every other weekend because i wanted some quality time with the twins and did not feel like i was getting any with school all week and him getting them every weekend. plus he has had them every christmas /thanksgiving for the last5yrs and when i wanted this yr, he had issues becuse they had 'traditions' that they do every year. can someone PLEASE give me some advice here??!!
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googledad
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If the visitation is court ordered , yes, you have to send them . There is nothing stopping you from asking for a modification of your current order for time time for you .
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lvs2sng
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as far as court orders go, all there is, is what was done at the paternity--we were never married--and child support hearing. which states;...shall be granted the following visitation with the children: every other Sat. in the childrens home supervised by ms.--- or her designee. Ms. --- will initiate the phone calles to set up the visits. the parties will work tward visitation every Sat. Out-of home visitation could beginupon agreement of the partiesonce the children turn one year old.'
and thats all it says. and the dad never came--said 'no judge is going to tell me when i can and can't see my kids.' so, the twins were like almost 3. like 2 and a half when he started to see them. and it was ME who called HIM and asked if he wanted to see them. see, they were pre-mature and i was breast feeding--hence the way the judge put the way he could see the babies.
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googledad
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He's only entitled to the time specified in the court order . If he does take you back to court to have the order modified , he can argue he's entitled to the time he has now as you've been allowing it for awhile . Chances are he's likely to get more time than in the original order but less than he's been getting .
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gr8Dad
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...he gets them ONE day a week? Or does he get overnights?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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1004SRS
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My ex is supposed to have the kids every other weekend and Tuesday nights overnight. He chose that schedule. We alternate holidays. So, far he has missed many of his visitations.
Not fair to you or the kids for their father to have them every holiday. You need to push that issue.
If he wants a modification, he can go back through the courts.
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lvs2sng
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see, what was so-called "ordered", was done when they were first born and when we were in court for the paternity --he wanted blood tests-- and the county di the chil support at the same time. i believe i had a harassment restraining order against him at the time so that is why the judge put the visits like that--in my home and all and the babies being preemies and me breast feeding.....but like i said, he never came for the first 2 and a half to 3 years and the judge said that after the first year that visits were up to us, basically
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