jhan6120
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Currently she is working and making 50,000 a year, and has worked in her current job for four years, and part time for the year before that. She did not work at all in our first year of marriage. She claims that she has a lifelong disability because she broke her foot and needed surgery the first year of our marriage. She also claims to have tendonitis in her wrists from using a computer, etc, and claims that she might have mesothelioma from asbestos in an art studio she worked in for ten years prior to our marriage. Basically what she believes is this: I made 110,000 for the past two years, and she thinks she can just subtract the amount she makes now from what I made and that's what she gets.
She also thinks I should pay half the car payment for a car she brought into the marriage, along with the insurance. Add to that paying to maintain her dog, her health insurance which she quotes will be around 650 a month, her cable and phone bill, her gym membership of 80 a month, her prescription fees, etc, etc.
Note that we lived in a one bedroom apartment before we got married and drove a Jetta. That's exactly how we live now!
I should also mention that she is voluntarily quitting her job and moving from NJ to CA. She expects me to pay her moving expenses and basically shell out 56,000 to allow her to 'live' for the first year there, along with 2000 rehabilitative alimony a month for three years (this is a new development.) But basically, and no joking, I could probably get the New York Rangers orthopedist to disprove that she's permantly disabled. Then she'd have to hire a doctor to prove it, which could get expensive.
My family has a good deal of money to throw at lawyers. I think she's bluffing me and doesn't realize that I will stretch this out over two years and make it very expensive and difficult for everyone. She doesn't really have any money, and it looks like only an ambulance chaser will work on a contingency fee.
Her history is a pretty shady and litigious. During our marriage she got a settlement for a back injury prior to our marriage. In the first year of our marriage she claimed bankruptcy, supposedly because of her foot. And now she's threatening to go for an asset that I brought into the marriage and that three lawyers told me was pre-marital and passive (see Painter v. Painter, 1974, NJ). So there's another lawsuit for you. Don't know whether or not this will work in my favor.
Man, that was long. Thanks to everyone for their patience. Hope I'll get to help somebody here one day.
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Melody
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disabled and unable to work by her physicians, she is not disabled. In addition, the Department of Labor needs to concur with the physician declaration. It sounds more like she WANTS to be disabled.
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Debbie_L
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"Her history is a pretty shady and litigious."
Yet you married her?
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Renee
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Love is blind..... ; )
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Debbie_L
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I sometimes think it's deaf, dumb and blind, lol.
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jhan6120
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I would say that it's hard to know everything about a person's nature before you get married, so I don't think the 'deaf dumb and blind' comment is neccesary
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Renee
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It wasn't meant as an attack jhan.... we've all been fooled by someone who presented as one thing and was really something else. Because we're in love and wanting the dream, we tend to overlook the warning signs that are usually somewhere in the relationship. Thats also a part of human nature sometimes....
I personally think its a good thing -- if you don't go thru life hoping for the best, all that leaves is to expect the worst.
Wow... and to think I hated philisophy in college... : ) I better not quit my day job.
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Lucy44
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Loc: Rochester, MN
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by the lawyers? What do they figure the settlement should be?
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preemiemom
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[quote]I would say that it's hard to know everything about a person's nature before you get married[/quote]
Amen and HALLELUJAH!! God, don't you just wish you had like a magic 8 ball that really WORKED before one wed someone else?
Sounds like she's, for lack of a better word, but one of my favorite ones I never get to use.. a grifter. Scam here, scam there. She doesn't sound like she has a (sorry) foot to stand on ;) I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Good luck!
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trophywife
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You have a large enough income spread that she could expect something for a brief period. For example, 500 to 1000 a month for 10 years (one third of you income less 50 percent of hers for half the length of the marriage). I would not accept much less without letting a judge decide.
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