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alimony after ten years
      #201273 - 02/20/07 12:53 AM

have a friend married 8.5 years. She has no crisis in her marriage but wants out. Her husband is very successful and the potential settlement is large--he became successful largely after their marriage.

My lawyer told her that if she sticks it out to 10 years her likelihood of getting permanent alimony and a more generous settlement greatly increases.

She has decided to wait, and is using this time to gently start taking an interest in the finances and learning where all the assets are. If she filed now she have problems with that.


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Re: alimony after ten years [Re: trophywife]
      #201319 - 02/20/07 09:40 AM

Perm. alimony after 10 years? Unlikley...

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Re: alimony after ten years [Re: trophywife]
      #201333 - 02/20/07 10:14 AM

So..there are no issues, she just wants out...but wants to take his money too. Just doesn't sit well with me:-(

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Re: alimony after ten years [Re: trophywife]
      #201393 - 02/20/07 12:52 PM

If she wants permanant alimony, she's going to need to stick it out longer than 10 years...try 30 years.

If I were you...I would get new friends, but then again...looking at your handle I'm sure you're in good company.

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Tell her to get another lawyer... [Re: trophywife]
      #201478 - 02/20/07 03:19 PM

Permanent alimony is VERY rare. Now MAYBE if she was pushing 55, had never worked a day in her life, then she might get permanent. But even then, it's a crapshoot. Alimony is usually only temporary as there are no reasons a person can't get back to work and become self-supporting after a time, unless because of advanced age.

Aside from that, I'm gonna echo what the others have said. My first thought was a troll post designed to stir up a flamewar. Maybe, or maybe just someone who is very naive and thinks they can pull one over on someone. Why in the hell did she marry if she didn't believe in the vows she took?

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Re: Tell her to get another lawyer... [Re: almostheaven]
      #202916 - 02/22/07 10:05 PM

LOL..

A friend of mine was married for almost 30 years, very successful like mid 6-figures salary corporate office guy.. wife didn't work the last 10.. of her own volition.. NO CHILDREN at all. SHE didn't get ANY alimony whatsoever.. got her share of the marital assets and Buh-Bye...


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Re: Tell her to get another lawyer... [Re: preemiemom]
      #202937 - 02/23/07 07:21 AM

It the share of the assets is large enough, that can be better. My friend would be better off with more assets in the event she remarries

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Re: Tell her to get another lawyer... [Re: trophywife]
      #202969 - 02/23/07 08:57 AM

She'll only get a share of what was accumulated DURING the marriage. And her share may get cut if the judge determines she's at fault. Especially when she comes across as smug, just gimme my money, in the courtroom. The judge may ultimately decide she's the one causing the breakdown of the marriage, and as such, she won't get what she thought she would.

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Re: alimony after ten years [Re: trophywife]
      #222332 - 04/14/07 06:57 PM

I am insulted by the thought of your friend sticking it out till 10 years just to get alimony! I was married for 26 years, with no college education, stayed home raised the child, followed his career wherever it took him. Relocated several times. And after 26 years, see ya! It is women like your friend that prevents women like me to get what is justly owed.

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marge2033 [Re: marge2033]
      #223728 - 04/18/07 06:05 AM

What were you owed that you did not get?
How does my friend's actions affect you?


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