BeckaLeigh
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Reged: 06/08/05
Posts: 6875
Loc: Texas
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Well, in my situation, I dont work either, so I do everything I can in the house. All of it. And I dont complain because he is at work, supporting us. That is how it works when you stay at hom eand dont work. If he is busy, I even mow the yard. He does it when he has time, which isnt often, but I draw the line at weed-eating. Maybe his priorities arent so much wrong as just different than your priorities? Nobody can tell you what you are headed for when you child graduates and it is just you and him. That all depends on how you two work it out. How agreeable and willing to compromise both of you are. There is no reason your daughter cant help. Mine help me and they are 7, 9 and 10. As long as they are being supported by my husband, they will continue to help. There shouldnt be much for him to have to do at home if he works full-time.
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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>>>>>If your husband is working and you are not, you need to do home chores.<<<<<
I'm a stay home mom. My hubby works about 60 hours a week. I do ALL the home chores, except mow the lawn. Can't run a riding mower with an 18 mo. old in tow.
>>>>>As for the weight. If you are able, there is no reason you can't pop in a workout video or take walks. Join a gym if you can afford it.<<<<<
Yup. Before I was an SAHM, I worked 40 hours a week AND went to school 2 to 3 nights a week. Yet I STILL lost over 100 pounds through eating right and exercising regularly. And my motto since has been...If I can, anyone can. You don't even wanna know the number of failed diets I was on before that. Losing weight is a mindset. YOU have to get there, not your hubby, not your kids, no one but you. And you have to get there for the right reasons. I tried before to look good...no go. I tried for boyfriends...huh uh. I decided to lose weight for health. I'm 100+ pounds down and holding since 2004 on a regime I started in 2002.
>>>>>Woman can do home improvements just as well as men most the time. Try it you might like it.<<<<<
I must. After installing a new medicine cabinet (with bro's help), laying peal and stick tile and painting (on my own), and caulking the bath, after hanging interior shutters in the kitchen (only asked hubby to drill through the concrete and metal frames for me), framing my shelves and adding bi-fold doors to them, putting up a spindle rail on my shelf, painting and staining and cutting and nailing up baseboards and trim, stippling and painting my walls and hanging border (ALL on my own) in my kitchen....I'm somewhat done. Just gotta put up a new door on the shed and install a new tub surround upstairs. But for now, I'm working on my parents bathroom for something new to do. LOL And I've just learned most of it as I went.
I just wish the OP would come back and clarify. Because of things she stated, I got the impression that they may both be sitting home, that he may be on disability. If that's the case, the only thing that changes is the work around the house and the improvements. But again, if he won't, just get up and do it yourself or get out. Complaining isn't going to make it happen. YOU have to make it happen or dump it.
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MommyAlisha
old hand
Reged: 02/22/07
Posts: 931
Loc: Wesy Virginia
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Congrats on the weight loss.
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Renee
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4022
Loc: The Palmetto State
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Add to all the other suggestions for your time at home, 'how to use an internet board'. Two basic rules: don't post in ALL CAPS, and don't respond to your own post like you're someone else.
Bottom line is that the only person responsible for your happiness is YOU; if you're not happy, put on your Big Girl Panties and make changes.
Consider them carefully though, as there are many women on this board, AND out in the real world, who would love to be in the position you're in with:
1) A Husband who provides for her and a child that isn't his.
2) A house that is only 15% from being completed.
3) The financial ability to stay at home and still keep the lights, heat, internet and food on the table.
4) Only 25lbs to lose.
The grass isn't always greener, and your counselor is right about one thing - you have the potential to want things. I only hope s/he also mentioned that YOU are the only one that can do the work to get them.
Keep playing the victim, or get *yourself* motivated to make changes.
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yregna
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Reged: 07/25/06
Posts: 1265
Loc: Oregon
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Quote "
1) A Husband who provides for her and a child that isn't his.
2) A house that is only 15% from being completed.
3) The financial ability to stay at home and still keep the lights, heat, internet and food on the table.
4) Only 25lbs to lose."
I believe this is the formula for a guy about to get screwed in a divorce settlement. I wonder if he knows how much liability he has taken on ? Poor guy...
And later on when she posts again you'all will be explaining what she is "entitled" to...
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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NO ONE here has talked about what she's "entitled" to except YOU, moron.
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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The damned thread is a month old! Stop dredging up stuff to troll!
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Renee
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4022
Loc: The Palmetto State
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You're assuming he knows how to tell time. He's made a regular habit of pulling up old posts to start crap.
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