BeckaLeigh
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That made me laugh. And the sad thing is, you are probably right, Debbie.
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Debbie_L
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Reged: 06/06/05
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Tee hee - I know. All I know is that my husband is one VERY happy man, kwim? I keep him happy and he's more than thrilled to keep me happy. If more men were being taken care of like him there would be no wars (I'm thoroughly convinced of this). I'm sure someone like vregna will never get it (pun sort of intended, lol).
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spinnerdegrassi
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And most of us have men willing to pay the bills because we take very good care of them. As to why that is any of your business, I am not sure. But, I can assure you , my husband doesnt want me to get a job. He would prefer to take care of me. In all ways. Too bad for you that you have such an ignorant attitude.
It depends on the relationship and the amount/age of kids involved. At this point with my SD being almost 17 there's absolutely no reason why my wife shouldn't be working FT, nor I (barring unforseen layoffs). At this point there's no way I'd be willing to be the sole wage earner. Even when I left my old career and worked from home for 3 years, I did all the housework plus earned a living that brought in @ 80% of what my prior job had done and still covered my share of the bills coming into the household. I would expect that my wife would view things the same..that at this point in our lives each of us has an equal responsibility to earn to the best of our abilities and not place undue pressure on the other to disproportionately support the household. I've never seen it as my duty to be the breadwinner, I've seen it that we both need to support the household, financially and doing the work related to the house and raising of SD.
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Redlegg
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Someone definitely hurt you in the past, but no one here should have to pay the price.
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BeckaLeigh
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See, I agree with you and until I got with him, I did work steadily, full-time. I had from the time I turned 16 til I got with him at 23 or 24. I have always supported myself and my kids. There are 3 of my kids involved and they are ages 7, 9 and 10. I told him recently that since they were all in school full-time and didnt need me nearly as much, I was thinking about going back to work. He said he would prefer me not to, but if I chose to, he would support my decision. But, he also knows that, God forbid, we ever split up, he is a free man. All I want out of it is my kids' pets, my horse, and my Rodeo that he bought me for my birthday. And he also knows that should that happen before the Rodeo is paid off, I will assume the note. I wont be wcreaming SS, but only because I am a relatively self-sufficient, independent person. But, this is not always the case. There is always a different situation to analyze before you pass judgement.
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BeckaLeigh
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LOL. Exactly. I mean, there are those who dont want to support their spouse solely and I understand that. But, when the man wants to do it, why b!tch about it later? Or assume every situation is the same. My mom thoroughly agrees with you on the no wars thing. I still think the are men who have alot of aggression to get out, like yregna.
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txks1151
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....tsk tsk....so much drama just to be able to get laid on a regular basis.
Would regular basis be defined as once a month if I was lucky, and once every 3-4 months normally?
She was a total nympho prior to the wedding. After about a month of marraiage, I started getting the "sex is only for babies" speech. So if it was not that 3-4 days a month a woman is ovulating.. Fugheaddaboutit
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Renee
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"She was a total nympho prior to the wedding. After about a month of marraiage, I started getting the "sex is only for babies" speech. So if it was not that 3-4 days a month a woman is ovulating.. Fugheaddaboutit "
Maybe it was the wedding cake?? I've heard that eating that can kill anyone's sex life.... 
Actually, I never gave my XH the "babies only" speech. I figured it wasn't worth the argument, so I might as well go ahead and get those 4 minutes over with.
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NancyD
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Reged: 06/03/05
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Loc: New York
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Char, all I can say is that I quit two jobs to please my then-husband. One was one of the best careers positions I ever had (doing design work for a BIG record company).
He NEVER acknowledged what I gave up for him.
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BeckaLeigh
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Reged: 06/08/05
Posts: 6875
Loc: Texas
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LOL, that was bad. 4 minutes? I thought my ex was bad.
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