JulieLynn
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Reged: 06/03/05
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Loc: KY gal in Indiana
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I think you did the best thing for your family. I've seen incidents where SD's lied and said dad abused them ...did it for SPITE because she wasn't getting her way. It almost destroyed a family before the teenager came to her senses. She'll admit she lied and just now realizes what those lies could have done.
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M5M5
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He never used the word "secretly" that I recall. Now...I could be wrong....have been before. But I dont' remember him saying he "secretly watched" her shower. I think he checked up on her to see that she was getting evertying washed....like I STILL hvae to do with my kids (son is 9 yrs old).
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katiefedup
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Reged: 10/26/05
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ok, maybe not secretly, but it was through the door without the daughters knowledge.
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katiefedup
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this child has been through a lot. She has a mother who will not discuss who her birth father is, and step dad that she is not close to who hits her. Good lord, they have only been married maybe 3 or 4 years. A step father can not step in and start spanking a 12 year old. I remarried when my daughter was 12. I could never imagine my husband spanking her. I said a few weeks ago that all of this hitting was going to bite him on the azz!
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Buckeye
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gr8dad, sorry about this mess. Teenagers are basically, a pain in the butt and it goes down hill from there.
DD tried that one with us once, she didn't want to live here - wanted to live with grandma and grandpa. I said fine, pack your stuff. I actually, went upstairs and got a suitcase.
Then, I said, no, we bought your stuff for you, you can go live with grandma and grandpa exactly that same way we got you - naked! She changed her mind and decided things weren't that bad.
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katiefedup
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I agree the child had to leave the house. Since the threapist is a mandated reporter it is no suprise that the therapist said that she or gr8dad had to leave pending the law enforcement investigation. Gr8dad never said that he was asked to leave, but my hunch is that it was told that one of them had to leave. I am still curious how all the bruises got there. The younger sister said that she fell off the bleachers, yet the 16 year old decided to use the accident to turn against gr8dad. Makes one think about what is really going on in that house.
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Renee
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Reged: 06/02/05
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Loc: The Palmetto State
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Amen. That incident way back when has nothing to do with his situation today, and I bet it gets brought up here more than it does in his own home.
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Gecko
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Loc: Third rock from the sun
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And, the child's mother agreed that her daughter could go stay at her friend's house but gr8dad refused to let that happen and sent her to HIS mother's house instead.
---> Katie...need to go back and check your facts. It was the FRIEND'S mother who said it was ok if D16 moved in with her, NOT GDaddy's ex-wife (she has extremely limited "visitation" because she physically abused their children). Also GDaddy's mom has a home on their property...so it's not like he has just abitrairily sent her "away"...his wife and the therapist were in agreement.
---> I know that you don't like GDaddy and dispite my friendship with him, I'd nail his ass to the wall if he was wrong...ya'll don't have to dis him for trying to do right.
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focusedon2
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Reged: 12/10/05
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That's a tough one. I know other parents who have gone through times like this - these false accusations from a teen who wanted her freedom.
I think you did the right thing. Tough though.
One thing I can say from knowing someone who worked with children in a social service agency - once it's known that a child will lie about something like that, everything she says from that point on is taken with a grain of salt. These agencies aren't blind to the fact that some children have problems - and that some of their stories are fabricated for their own perceived gain.
Hang in there and don't let her intimidate you.
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katiefedup
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no the daughter's mother, gr8dad's wife, agreed to let HER daughter go stay with her friend and also gr8daddys wife's friend. Please reread the post. It isn't even his bio child
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