miss_icy
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hi i got this problem since i was 16 i left home and i met this guy when i was 16 i thought he is the one cause he is so nice to me n i got pregnant he is 5 years older than me n he just want me to stay home all the time not to hang out with my friends he very serious he doesn't know how to have fun i did not realize that till we got merried he's parents does not want me to have a baby if we don't get married i was so scared so i said yes i don't know what to do anymore, so we were good n then he hit me once but i forgive him so now it's been 5 years and i am 22 i m still following he's rule just stay home n work i feel like i am in a prison even his mom calls me 5 times in one day to check me if i am home even if i am working they call me n my parents always on he's side i don't know who could i turn to i have nobody we don't communicate we don't sleep at the same bed but we r still together lot's of guys asking me out so i went out with this guy which is he so nice but i am not sure if i am doing the right thing my husband is always talk to this girl but he told me they r only friends even the girl talk to me so i don't know i am young n very fun person but husband we nothing incommon n i don't feel happy anymore just sometimes if we have time to talk we still go out with our child
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txks1151
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Miss Icy, punctuation is your friend.When you type in the "stream of consiousness" like this post, it is extremely hard to read.
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Renee
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Please look at the posts you see on here and try to learn how to post differently. Posting to a forum is different than sending text msgs or chatting; at least it is if you want anyone to take you seriously.
If you're being abused call your local Social Services office and get the number for a battered woman's shelter. Share with them what you've said here. They will know what your options are where you live and be able to give you practical advice.
One thing to keep in mind, you are going to have to make some hard choices if you want to change your life. It won't all turn into fun and freedom just because you leave him, so make sure you think about the fallout before you walk out the door.
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almostheaven
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>>>>Please look at the posts you see on here and try to learn how to post differently. Posting to a forum is different than sending text msgs or chatting; at least it is if you want anyone to take you seriously.
Exactly my first thought. Then I thought, she was pregnant and a runaway at 16, possibly a high school dropout, then thought...that STILL doesn't excuse it, not if you want to be understood.
My second issue is that she said he never lets her go out, yet she went out with some other guy?!?!?
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Relayer
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Quote:
Please look at the posts you see on here and try to learn how to post differently. Posting to a forum is different than sending text msgs or chatting; at least it is if you want anyone to take you seriously.
If you're being abused call your local Social Services office and get the number for a battered woman's shelter. Share with them what you've said here. They will know what your options are where you live and be able to give you practical advice.
One thing to keep in mind, you are going to have to make some hard choices if you want to change your life. It won't all turn into fun and freedom just because you leave him, so make sure you think about the fallout before you walk out the door.
Sure, throw the "abuse" card in..jesus..
it's plain to see this kid is 22, wants to party and is sick of her husband..there is no abuse here. She's already stepping out on her husband..ya, throw the tried and true abuse card in..that should be enough to TOTALLY screw the husband..
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almostheaven
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"then he hit me once"
THAT is abuse.
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Debbie_L
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Isolating someone from their family and friends and constantly checking up on them and not allowing them any freedom is also abuse. Those are classic abuser tactics.
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theneeddd
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Reged: 05/05/07
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Loc: MONTGOMERY ,ALABAMA
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I agree she is trying to screw the husband .
"will not let me hang out with my friends"= will not me go and see other guys at the club with my friends
give me a break
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Renee
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She did already say he hit her once - 5yrs ago - and add to that the fact that he doesn't want her to go out or have friends, the fact that he constantly cks up on her and has his mother doing the same, it *sounds* like it could be abusive. Granted, there may be logical explanations for why he cks up on her so much, but I was taking what she typed at face value. I also caught the part about going out with another guy, but I put it secondary to the control he has asserted over her. Which is why I advised her to talk to the shelter. THEY can determine if she's being abused, or if she's looking for an easy out. Which I also pointed out would NOT be so easy.
Relayer: She's already stepping out on her husband..ya, throw the tried and true abuse card in..that should be enough to TOTALLY screw the husband..
-->So this is ok and not suspicious: "my husband is always talk to this girl but he told me they r only friends even the girl talk to me so i don't know " "we don't communicate we don't sleep at the same bed "
and you:
I agree she is trying to screw the husband . give me a break
---> Sure. The life she's got with hm is so great she just wants to bail on him and take it all with her.
Please - give ME a break. ...like she sounds like a golddigger with a wealthy mark - she's just the typical inexperienced, niave woman who was foolish enough to get pregnant at a young age and then do what everyone told her she had to do. Now she's at the point where she realizes what she's missing, that her Knight in Shining Armor has clay feet, and she wants to go sow her wild oats. That isn't the *right* thing to want, but it certainly isn't surprising. How many guys get married too young and then decide they don't want to be married anymore? If he's not even sleeping with her at this point I'd be willing to bet he's already half out the door himself.
Which doesn't matter a whole hill o beans anyways, because it was a post n run from a newbie we'll likely never see again anyways.
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