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rgil
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is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend
      #249212 - 06/13/07 03:14 AM

so my question is- Is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend while i am going through my divorce would the courts hold it against me? I have been apart from my soon to be ex for almost a year in august so i have moved on and he and i want to move in ?

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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: rgil]
      #249216 - 06/13/07 05:40 AM

What's the hurry? Personally, I would wait because legally, you are still married.

Why give your STBX any more ammunication to use.


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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: Buckeye]
      #249454 - 06/13/07 03:11 PM

It is not against the law. But, IMO, it's stupid and it's adultery.

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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: Avaya]
      #249525 - 06/13/07 06:38 PM

is it going to be considered bad in the courts eyes?

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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: rgil]
      #249527 - 06/13/07 06:40 PM

It could - it all depends how the judge is that day and where you are located.

Personally, what is the rush? You need time without a husband or boyfriend to learn to take care of yourself and give yourself time to recuperate.


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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: rgil]
      #249533 - 06/13/07 07:04 PM

Without being judgemental....

Depending on where you are it could be an issue. The bible belt states would definitely take it into consideration in determining things like custody.

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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: rgil]
      #249545 - 06/13/07 07:45 PM

It will harm your case if:

a) there are children and custody issues to resolve.
b) you live in one of the states that allow divorces to be granted based on fault. For example, SC is a fault-based state, and adultery would cause problems with custody, spousal support, and financial settlements.

You should google divorce law in your respective state to see if your state is no-fault or it allows adultery claims as a basis for divorce.


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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: Renee]
      #249613 - 06/14/07 05:05 AM

ok so in the laws it say the only reason the courts need is for one party to claim irrevitably broken unless it was a covnant marriage which mine wasnt so does this change things for my situation broken

THIS WAS FROM ABOUT.COM AND IM FROM ARIZONA
A few states, Louisiana, Arkansas and Arizona have passed laws that give couples the option to choose, before they marry, which laws they would want to apply to their divorce should the marriage end. They can choose between “covenant marriage” or the no-fault option. In covenant marriage, couples agree to pre-marital counseling and to limit the grounds and options should they decide to divorce.

so does this help me at all?


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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: rgil]
      #249617 - 06/14/07 05:46 AM

Look, do what you want because it appears that you are determined to have things your way.

We are telling you what has happened in other cases but you don't appear to be willing to listen.

It is definitely possible that your STBX will use your living with someone while still married as a reason to not pay you alimony. And, truthfully, I would agree with him.

If I was the judge, you would get no alimony and lose the children. Do you want to put yourself in that position?


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Re: is it against the law to have a live in boyfriend [Re: Buckeye]
      #249620 - 06/14/07 06:03 AM

no its not that i dont want to listen im not wanting alimony and my boyfriend treats my kids better than i could ever imagine im just worried my divorce has been going on almost a year now and we still havent had our first court date i finally found out why so im just worried that me moving on already will look bad in the courts eyes i live in a "mother" state so that helps my case the only worry is me losing the kids but unless its something like my boyfriend abusing my kids then i have been told its no big deal what do you think?

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