madhatter
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Ok, I'm going to try to make this short. But I'm not making any promises.
In 6 of 06 my wife left. took the kids & abandoned our home in Louisiana while I was work. It took a few days, but I finally heard from my kids & found out they were in Minnesota (her original home).
A few weeks later I was able to get a extended leave of abstinence thru my employer so I can go try to fix what ever it was I did wrong.
As I arrive in Minnesota I practically see my wife & kids living in substandard conditions that they were not use to. Room mate coming & going. Alcohol & I believe drug abuse as well were in that house.
I was asked to stay & quickly started cleaning up the home. People were moved out, alcohol was moved out, and yes. The drugs were gone as well.
After a few months I thought everything was going OK. Then some strange man appears. Moves into the home. And begins calling himself my wife's boyfriend. I couldn't handle it, so I returned to Louisiana for work & started getting things prepared for a divorce (adultery is immediate grounds for divorce in Louisiana).
Anyhow, a couple months had went by and I get a disturbing call from my oldest daughter (she's 9). She's talking crap about getting hit. Being locked into her bedroom. Said that her mommies boyfriend is mean to them when he is drunk. And then she started talking about drugs. She described meth & marijuana to a exact. It was like she was holding it in her hand as she was telling me about it.
OK, so at this time there were no custody, divorce, or other papers filed with the court. So I decided to do what was best for my children. I drove up there picked up my children & brought them back home. When I picked them up I noticed that my 2 year old boy had a fat lip.
4 days later (a Thursday evening) this broad shows back up in Louisiana at my home with a temp protection order from a Minnesota judge saying that I had to turn the kids over & then appear in court Monday morning. I refused to give the kids. She went got the sheriff & he refused to honor the court orders from Minnesota (I discussed the situation with him before I went to Minnesota).
So I appear in court Monday morning. Immediately people are being thrown up onto the testifying stand. I was barely allowed a word in edgewise. But I finally was able to speak my peace & explain as to why I took my kids back to Louisiana & as to why they were still there.
The judge ruled & said that I had mentally & physically abused her and my kids & I had to release them immediately to her. I thought I was in court for kidnapping. Not abuse. And there was never any abuse in our relationship. The 2 witnesses she had I have never met before in my life. And I mentioned that to the judge. Now I am ordered not to have any contact with my wife or kids in any way. They can contact me, but I can't them. I can not visit them unless it is authorized by my wife. But I can't call her to ask if
I can drive up and see them.
This past Thursday she picked them up in our home in Louisiana. I had no choice but to abide by the orders. My daughter cry & didn't want to go. She didn't even pack her clothes. She said she was coming right back. My 5 year old son went & hid in the closet when he saw his mothers car pull into the driveway. They did not want to go with her.
Now what am I suppose to do? I have filed for the divorce here in Louisiana but they will not override another states ruling.
I was thinking about filing a petition in Minnesota to change custody. But according to the laws I have to wait 1 year. But then I have the argument that I was served on Thursday night for the following Monday morning hearing. I did not adequately have time to properly prepare my defense before I had to travel to Minnesota for court. I can have nearly 50 affidavits written up by friends, family, & co-workers stating that they were never witness to abuse.
But if I don't prove a case then I won't be able to take custody matters again for 2 years. I'm screwed aren't I?
I know I need a attorney. But at this time I can't afford one. I want to keep a battle going over this. That way my kids know that I am indeed fighting for them.
If it sounds like I'm rambling I probably am. I haven't slept since Thursday. Just knowing that what was done was wrong & questioning as to why the justice system truly doesn't work. Aren't they suppose to appoint a guardian ad litem to cases like this?
I guess my only hope now is that she gets picked up for these drugs I've been told about. My daughter already told me that she was going to call the police on her if she she's her using them again. I have also made a phone call to the drug task force in that city informing them that they may be receiving a call from a child & it won't be a prank.
Anyone have any suggestions or want to offer money to where I can actually obtain the attorney that your going to suggest?
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1004SRS
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Can you report this on one of the more used boards? Try Child Custody... you'll get more responses.
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madhatter
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Sure will. Going to do it now!
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Relayer
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Well, at least you got an "extended leave of abstinence".
Drink up. You will need it.
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GO CUBBIES!!!!
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