jrl1951
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Just curious as to what most women do when they divorce. I went back to my maiden name even though I have children. The guy I date, his ex did not take her maiden name back. So it's sort of weird thinking about maybe getting married and having me take his last name while she still has his last name.
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Miranda
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I felt the same way. I was remarried 5 years before I changed my name to my husband's. If I were you, and if I did it over I would never change from my maiden name- EVER.
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Redlegg
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Was she renting, or did she buy? I really don't think it matters, its her name, it became her name when she married your SO and thats it. I think it is totally a personal preference, there was a discussion about this somewhere, but the bottom line is that you do what works for you.
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Drew
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Capulet or Montague?
What's in a name?
Would a rose by any other name still smell as sweet?
HA! They were dealing with this issue when Shakespeare was still breathing...............
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TGSM
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I have seen it go both ways...some women can't wait to get their maiden name back...other feel like it's a hassle to change names or they want to keep the same name as their kids.
In our case, my husband's exwife kept his name and she is now getting remarried in Sept. My SS says she is going to keep her name the way it is...how confusing huh? I mean is she going to still be Ms. P, even though she will be married and a Mrs.? I am so confused...LOL
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jrl1951
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It really helps to hear this. I think I would keep my maiden name after all I got it back with the divorce as I requested. Why should there be 2 Mrs with the same last name? My SO's ex never wanted to get divorced anyway so maybe that's why she kept the name. Plus she uses her maiden name for professional things and the married name for other things with the kids. Is that weird? As for me it has not been a problem for me with going back to my maiden name. That way I have shown I don't have ties to him except for the kids. They've even mentioned to me they would like to have both our last names.
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preemiemom
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I felt the same way. I was remarried 5 years before I changed my name to my husband's. If I were you, and if I did it over I would never change from my maiden name- EVER.
Amen!!! I will never, ever, EVER change my name again. DD's name will be changed to be a hyphenated version of BOTH his and my maiden last name. I will return to my maiden name. Wish I'd never changed it to begin with and if I hadn't been having a child, I never would have.
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Redlegg
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2 Mrs, I thought that changed when the divorce was final. Now its starting to sound like the artist formerly known as........
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almostheaven
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People do it differently. I kept my married name in my first divorce. It was easier than changing my DL and SSN and going through all that hassle. However, I remarried, and for years, I had a different last name than my daughter. Yet that marriage didn't work out either and while in the process of divorce, my daughter expressed an interest in me changing my name back to my previously married name because it had bothered her that she and I had different last names for years. So here I was taking back the name of a man I hadn't been married to, or even seen, in over 10 years. There should be nothing weird about it. A name isn't exclusive, and even people of no relation are going to have that name. It's just a name. Don't focus on it. Focus on the fact that you're going to be with him.
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PhoenixRising
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Why should there be 2 Mrs with the same last name?
------ > Have you looked in the phone book? How many Mrs. Smith’s are there? What is “odd” about that?
She uses her maiden name for professional things and the married name for other things with the kids. Is that weird?
------ > So you are saying that you can't understand why a mother would want to have the same last name as her kids in her family dealings and her own name on her professional accomplishments? One of you is weird. I am not sure that it is her.
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