LadyBugRN
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Reged: 06/22/05
Posts: 1498
Loc: Virginia
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I had to share this, because something happened today that gave me a little hope back, even if I am still kicking myself over it now!
I was shopping today at Walmart and I was headed into the automotive section to pick up an oil filter and oil, so my oldest son could change the oil in my car. As I turned down the aisle towards the oil, I spotted a really cute man, about my age. He looked up at me and I looked at him and as I got closer, I realized I had no idea how to find the right filter or oil. Seeing as he was there, I saw a perfect opportunity to speak to him. I stopped and asked him if he knew how to tell which filters went with each make/model of cars. He pointed in the direction of a computer and said I could look it up there or in the book by it. So, I thanked him and walked up to the computer.
I started trying to use the computer, in which none of the information went any earlier than 2001, so I picked up the book sitting there and tried looking it up there too. As I was doing that, he came up behind me and asked if I needed any help, because I was looking in the spark plug book. I laughed and said that I had no idea what I was doing, as it was painfully obvious. He laughed and picked up the right book. I told him that my being in the automotive section, trying to pick out an oil filter was like probably him being in the makeup aisle, trying to pick out makeup. He laughed and said "You never know, I might be very good at picking out makeup!" We both laughed.
He proceeded to walk over with me to the oil and help me get that too. He was very cute, funny and we just seemed to hit it off, in those few short minutes. Right then and there, I wish I'd said "Hi! I'm Lori, it's nice to meet you..." But, dumb me, I didn't even think of that until we'd gone out separate ways. He had no wedding band on and he was pushing a cart, so he seemed to be there alone. I am just kicking myself now!!!! I feel I at least had an opportunity to do something, be a little bold and I let it walk away. But, the lesson I learned today, if it should ever happen again, is be prepared! Next time I won't let that happen again!
Moral of the story... Women, go hang out in Walmart, in the automotive section and ask for help from all the men that come down the aisle. Men, be there ready to assist. This seems to be the male territory and I honestly needed the help.
Lori
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about learning to dance in the rain."
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Debi
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/03/05
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That kind of stuff is always fun, isn't it? I can't do that right now, but something similar happened to me at the gas station about a year and a half ago. I went back to that damn store every night at the same time for 3 weeks hoping to run into the guy again but I never did. *sigh* Think your son will get suspicious when you start having him change the oil every 500 miles? I gotta admit I LOL when I read the part about you looking in the spark plug book though.
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JustMeAndThree
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Reged: 04/25/07
Posts: 993
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I hope that one day I get to the point where I have the courage and confidence to do something like that. At this point in situations like that all I can think about is how the man probably thinks i'm a fat cow. 2 years ago I had worked very hard and lost 40 lbs but then this last year with working full time, being a newly single mom of 3, dealing with a jerk brain stbx and stress, not to mention antidepressants that I have researched and are prone to causing weight gain I feel like an ever inflating balloon. BUT We are moving into a nicer, bigger house in a neighborhood that I can go for walks with the kids in so maybe I can get off my butt sometimes...right now we live on a very short dirt road off of a state highway...so no place to walk....That's my next goal after settling into the new house...getting some excercise
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LadyBugRN
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Reged: 06/22/05
Posts: 1498
Loc: Virginia
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I could probably hang out for the next year on all my days off in the automotive department at that Walmart and never see him again. I keep telling myself that if something was meant to come from it all, it would have, he would have maybe said something. I have to admit, part of me feared rejection or getting a strange look, a tell tale sign that he just wasn't interested. This way, it was a nice start on the correct path and a fun nudge in the right direction. I honestly wasn't playing dumb about the spark plugs book vs the air filter book either, it just happened. I was such a fish out of water. It's a t least a fun story to tell now too...
Lori
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about learning to dance in the rain."
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LadyBugRN
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Reged: 06/22/05
Posts: 1498
Loc: Virginia
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It's taken me 6 years to be able to do this little thing today. It was just being in the right place, at the right time, with the right circumstances. My fear of rejection, someone outwardly showing me they may not find me attractive or they may blow me off and I'd be so crushed. My self confidence is still not repaired. Trust me, I don't feel like any beauty queen either, by any stretch of the imagination. I just faked it today and wouldn't let myself get flustered thinking "You're not good enough Lori".
Lori
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...it's about learning to dance in the rain."
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freedom123
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Reged: 05/21/07
Posts: 528
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I'm dating someone (a really wonderful someone) but it's always fun to feel like men find you attractive even if you're someones ex. Recently while shopping at Walmart I ran into an old high school boyfriend who told me that he was getting a divorce...he looked really sad and I felt so bad for him...told him that I was so sorry and time would help. He added something about me looking really good which was so nice to hear even if I had no intention of pursuing anything. Really helps the confidence in my new relationship. All of us deserve that...
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Drew
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Reged: 07/30/07
Posts: 1017
Loc: somewhere more familiar
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O.k. ladies,
A bold, charming character is an experienced hitman as a rule.
The guy you ran into probably thought about hitting on you but he was too shy or thought you would be offended. Here's the tuff part, ...make yourself available.
This can be done both tactfully and tastefully, thereby creating a safe environment (he may be scared of rejection, or just respectful and not wishing to offend).
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Renee
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4022
Loc: The Palmetto State
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Okay, so now that the oil change is taken care of.... how are your wiper blades? Need new ones yet? ;O)
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1004SRS
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 12/11/06
Posts: 5044
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So, I think I need new tires, new wiper blades, an oil change, ummmm what other car parts are there?
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NancyD
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/03/05
Posts: 2105
Loc: New York
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Kind of makes me wish there was a WalMart around these parts. LOL. Well, will a Target do?
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