Debi
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Drew,
I'll put you in the yellow and pink shirt club too (that's a compliment) There is no way my x would have EVER bought that stuff. As a matter of fact when we married he told me I better always make sure I had what I needed because he wouldn't go get it. After my 3rd was born I had to call my best friend and ask her to pick some stuff up after work for me because he wouldn't and I wasn't supposed to drive yet. *sigh*
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JustMeAndThree
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LOL.....my ex probably would have bought the stuff...but get him to wear a pink shirt that would be a cold day in hell, to him any man who had good fashion sense, spent more than 5 minutes on his hair or wore any feminine colors was gay...But then again he thinks that if you aren't running around farting and scratching your you-know-what's then you aren't a man.
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Debi
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But then again he thinks that if you aren't running around farting and scratching your you-know-what's then you aren't a man.
--------> LOL.Then by his standards my 13yo daughter is half way to being a man! I'm so proud. She doesn't have any you know what's to scratch but she can burb and fart with the best of them. Maybe there WAS something to the circumcission the hospital tried to charge me for when she was born!
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Badasp
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I know I'm reaching here but I do own a couple of pink ties (nice with a black suit) and I have several Tommy Bahama shirts that are peach or Salmon. I am in touch with my femine side... or whatever. They look nice and I feel like I'm in the bahamas ready for a drink with an umbrella in it.
Where's the beach?
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Debi
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PInk Tie is a start and I guess the fact that you even KNOW the color salmon puts you in the pastel shirt club! This is a good thing seeing as how a lot of men only know 5 colors. Everything else is a variation. Here's a test. (no looking it up) what color is ecru? :o)
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Drew
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Debi,
I am thinking the answer to your color question would be dependant on what company ecru was working for? ;)
Thank you for your gracious compliment, I spent several years after high school employed as a graphic artist. I have made my living for the last 20 years though as an automobile mechanic. Go figure.
I have a well defined sense of color, balance and proportion. I always picked out the x's clothes. She was (is) quite the looker and was regularly complimented on "her" taste. I always decorated the house, from picking things out (everything from furnishings to accessories and wall decor etc.) to actually hanging and arranging etc. A long standing (joking) personal observation of mine has been that "I just missed being gay, I just don't like men that way!!!"
On a serious note. The psychologist who did our court ordered psych. evals. pointed out something to me that he said was exceptionally unusual. My testing/evaluation showed me to be without gender bias. Typically an individual "relates" to one gender or another (not sexually) but on an appreciation and or comfort level. I flatlined this area, he seemed to be interested by this result. He explained that some men wouldn't talk to a woman about this or that and vice versa, or perhaps this gender felt superior to this one etc. Not necessarily in a bigoted way simply on an ability to relate level. I am unencumbered by this bias. I guess I am some sort of freak!!?? ;)
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Melanie1
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Drew and badasp,
My Mr. 21 year old's best friend has been nic-named the "Gay-est (is that a word, lol) straight guy around. Females love him, he can talk fine dining, wine, philosophy, religion, politics, decorating, music, broadway, etc. Is sweet and sensitive, loves to cook, and yet masculine at the same time. A rare mix :). But he's definitely straight and has a lovely girlfriend (have met her).
Mr. 21 also had a college roommate who loved to decorate their dorm room and he is very straight and just got engaged last week. I couldn't believe how well he did his and my son's dorm room (my son has NO artistic abilities whatsoever; is a physics major w/a minor in mathematics and couldn't care less about his surroundings); plus he was always straightening up my son's side of the room!
I'd love to meet someone who loves to cook, enjoys a good piece of art (I'm heavily involved in the arts)and has alot of traits that my son's 2 friends that I mentioned have!
I've dated a couple of artists and their homes were lovely and composed like paintings. And they love to cook! But alas, one was just too much older than myself and the other, it turned out was in a long distance serious relationship that a mutual friend told me about. Consequently, I broke it off as I liked the guy way too much, knew things could never blossom, plus I felt like we were cheating on his gf. And I didn't want to go there once I found that out.
So you're not as unusual as you think :).
Badasp: good for you re: the pink shirts and ties. My X had no problems wearing pastels whatsoever. He's always been extremely confident of his masculinity (and everything else about himself to put it mildly, lol) and didn't even mind being around gay guys at all.
Interesting turn of discussion :).
Melanie
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Debi
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Drew,
You just made me wonder what a conversation with you would be like! Geez.....it could go from cars to furniture to decorating in a matter of seconds! I have to admit I love the guys on this board these days. You all have restored my faith in the fact that there are well rounded men out there. If you tell me you enjoy cooking I might fall in love! LOL
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JustMeAndThree
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[quote] I guess I am some sort of freak!!?? ;) [/quote]
If you call that being a "freak" then I think my town could use a lot more "freaks"
My ex was a mechanic by trade...but he wasn't in touch with his feminine side....he was too busy trying to PROVE how much of a man he was...if a guy talked about anything UNMANLY he was gay...pink shirt? he was gay...gel in his hair?...he was gay...the list goes on. It's nice to know that SOMEWHERE out there are some worthwhile men. I just wish they'd get directions to MY town :)
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Drew
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O.k. you guys.. er.. um.. gals,
I gotta come clean on a couple of things. I am not much of a groomer. I have always (whether it is right or wrong, it's just my take) sorta perceived groomer guys as vain.
I do actually clean up pretty good though! ;) I still at the ripe old age of 42 (and after three children hee hee) wear the same size pants that I wore in high school.
I do enjoy cooking (I'm not Wolfgang Puck by any means) I just hate cleaning it all up. I don't have some vast archive of recipes or a wine cellar either. Most of what I do is that homework, you need what for your project that is due tomorrow that you have known about for two weeks, swap clothes from the washer to the dryer, sign agenda book, fold some of that mountain of forementioned laundry, diagnose dns error and and restore internet function, (after all these kids couldn't exist without their myspace)
mumble something unintelligable to myself about how I should have gone to the groc. store on saturday afternoon when I had the chance but instead sat down for a minute to read a chapter or two then woke up an hour or two later berating myself for having wasted that time, as I prepare instant everything and tell them I don't care if you like it or not, if you are hungry enough you will eat it. Also, if you don't like it tonite, I suggest you eat alot or it will be back on the menu for tomorrow or the next day!
Now, take these vitamins and get your little butt in the shower 'cause it is time for bed, I don't care what is on the disney channel you aren't watching it tonite, it will be on again tomorrow anyway, and besides, I bet you have already seen it twice and could recite the script to me. Allright baby girl I know daddy forgot the conditioner, but you are still taking a shower and since I am the one who has to brush your hair, don't worry about conditioner just get it clean!!!
Allright, I'm ok now, sorry about that, I got a little carried away. ;b
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