ohiowife
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I've asked my husband for a divorce. He makes 2x what I make. We moved to Ohio for his job. I told him that if he gives me money to relocate back home, I will not make a claim for his pension, ask him to pay any of my debts, etc. He outright refused and said that he will never give me a cent and will refuse to grant me a divorce. I have no money to move and don't know what to do. If I get a lawyer, he will drag it out and I don't have the money for that either. Any ideas?
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Maury
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You don't need his consent to get a divorce.
How much were you asking for to relocate? If it was exhorbitant, he may have a point. Moreover, I would hae advised your spouse not to pay anything until the agreement was in writing. If not, it is not binding or enforceable.
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ohiowife
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I have asked for a little more than half than what I would get otherwise, I thought this was more than fair. And I am totally willing to put this in writing. He said that he would burn the money before giving me one cent.
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Rebecca5
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How long have you been married?
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Miranda
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SO you are asking for MORE than your "fair share" and yet you consider that FAIR??
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ohiowife
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3 years
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ohiowife
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Read carefully. A little more than half of what I would receive if we went to court. Not more than half of our assets
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Rebecca5
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I can't say I blame him for being pissed. You're the one asking for the divorce and then you have the nerve to ask him to bankroll your plans. What the court may award you wouldn't likely be "fair," it rarely is. For you to ask for more than that is fairly arrogant. Is it his fault that you can't afford to pay your own bills?
Sounds like your best bet may be to take it to court. After 3 years of marriage, I can't imagine you would get much. If you have children together, don't pack your bags just yet....Ohio is a very pro-father state.
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Miranda
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You do not know what a court would award you. Your fair share may not be that FAIR at all. Fair to you, could possibly be UNFAIR to your ex. Especially on a three year marriage you expect pension rights? I know folks who were married much longer and pensions were not even a factor due to state "vesting laws". Odds are you will cut your losses and move on.
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Edited by Miranda (08/26/05 05:08 PM)
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Miranda
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I did not mean to parrot your post. I read yours after I psoted mine.
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