neve1064
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Where do i begin? I am unhappy in certain parts of my marriage and comfortable at the same time. Anyone feel that way?
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confused2007
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Yep but I decided I want to be HAPPY!! and my kids to have a better quality of life even if it is without an alcoholic father...
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saralee
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I think that everyone feels that some of the time...if there are things making you unhappy, see if you could try to change them. Go for counseling or look at other websites. Try divorcebusting.com, I found some great books there (Sex Starved Marriage:) that helped us alot. Good luck.
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yregna
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Only women feel that way, Men are unhappy in all parts, but they have to stay BECAUSE THEY PAY YOUR BILLS !
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SusanC
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Sort out your feelings. Talk to your husband. Maybe he feels the same? Together you can make a change.
Good luck.
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neve1064
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First off, I am a guy. Neve 1064 is a preamp module that is my favorite for recording pop vocals, but I digress. Anyway, I am seperated (trial). My wife and I had sex about once every two months for the last year (when we broke up). The sex was seldom and it sucked! She's really over weight and wouldn't do little things to make me happy (like get French manicures or peticures). I married her obesse because I feel in love with her. I wasn't attracted to her though. What a messed up situation. So now I have a girl friend who is hot as hell and the sex is amazing but I miss my wife. I can't pull the trigger. But when I think about being back withher and waking up every morning wonf\dering if this is the day we will actually have sex, I realize it's really messed up. We started going to counseling, and that is like a pep rally; things sound like they are going to get better but they don't. It's at the point where I have to make a decision. I know in my heart my heart belongs to me wife but after ten years of knowing each other and being married for 7, she just isn't the kind of woman for me sexually. So, the non-sexuall part of me is very comfortable with her and in that love place but the manly part of me is way beyoind frustrated and I am in a business where I am around hot women all of the time.
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SusanC
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Ok, you are a guy! I'm sorry. Your problem sort of got in a new perspective. Why is it that your wife does not want to have sex more often? Do you do these "little things" to make her happy? Do you tell her what you want or need to be happy in your relationship? Does she know you have a grilfriend? I myself left my ex husband because of bad sex. Ok, not only because of it, but face it - it is a big part of a good realtionship. Otherwise you might as well be just friends. I'm sorry, I guess I can't give you any good advice. You need to talk to your wife about your needs. Then, after that. Listen to your heart.
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neve1064
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Part of me feels like later on in life I will look back and regret it if I leave. I have heard people say that as a relationship grows older and the couple does, sex becomes less important and the friendship/company goes to the forefront. But I am 36 - not 56. I understand this and I personally feel like I as a human-being naturally look for meaning in the things I do in my life. My marriage has a lot of meaning and comfort but at the same time a tremendous amount of frustration. I genuinely like my wife a lot and that lead to love in the past. The like hasn't stopped. i was never attracted to her physically although I thought she was beautiful faced. The point is, if you liked your husband enough to marry him but you divorced because of the sex not being good enough, how do you view him today? Was it hard to leave? Were you filled with second thoughts? Did it get easier with time? I don't want to make a wrong decision. If I didn't like my wife as a person and feel so comfortable around her, this would be so much easier. I also miss the home life I had now that I have moved out.
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