mustang66
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Reged: 03/26/06
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Hi,
For the last month or so, my ex has started calling me by my given name or nickname to my 11 year old little girl.
For instance, when I call to talk to my girl, she yell out that it's Bill, instead of saying that it's your dad calling.
I guess she must get a little rush knowing I can hear this.
And when her BF is at her house, she tells my daughter to go tell her dad that dinner is ready or whatever, and tries to make my child call her BF dad.
I don't want to put my child in the middle but I feel like telling her that next time her mom says to go tell your dad something, she should pick up the phone and do just that by calling me.
My daughter has told her that he is not her dad and she doesn't want to call him dad, I am her dad.
I really don't care what my child calls him but I don't think dad is appropriate, unless of course my daughter decides she wants to.
I have sat down with her and told my child that she is one of 3 people in the world that gets to call me dad and I am happy for that.
She told me last night that her mom again referred to me as Bill and she told her mom that I'm her dad and her mom told her that I wasn't HER dad so she could call me whatever she wanted...I really don't understand this and I am trying to think of a way to remedy this, other than going over there and telling her to knock it off!
Any ideas?
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Cinder2
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4361
Loc: Southern California
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Just ignore it for now. It sounds like your daughter is aware of what's going on. Let your ex call the two of you Bill and Dad and your daughter can continue to call you Dad and Joe.  Your ex will get tired of this game after a while.
Cinder
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c_jane
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 04/06/07
Posts: 1755
Loc: In the Great State of Texas
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What's wrong with Mom announcing 'its YOUR Dad'.... That's what SM/my Ex- do when I call my son. Whatever. It's just a game. Tell your DD that.
If I was really being snarky I'd tell your DD next time Mom pulls that 'go tell 'DAD' dinner's ready' to reply "He's not MY Dad -- is he yours??"
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mustang66
journeyman
Reged: 03/26/06
Posts: 91
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Is there a glossary of all the abbreviations on this forum?
I sometimes can't figure out some of them!
Thanks
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Annie7676
old hand
Reged: 06/05/05
Posts: 862
Loc: NY
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In the big picture of life...its not a big deal..why are you letting your X get under your skin like that...its a name...you are still your daughter's dad.
Just as a contrast..my Dad's side of the family are very large with lots of kids and lots of love...they are very close knit and close...my two cousins call their grandma by their first name...always have and always will they also refer to their mom by their first name...guess when they were kids they heard the other adults do it and picked up on it...does it mean they love each other any less , no
but if your X is doing this to irk you then tag you just got hit
you have discussed it with your daughter and she is okay with it...as far as the X's BF, if she does not want to call the BF Dad then she should not have to...and that would be something she should tell her mother...
good luck
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