Jewelsy
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hello readers.. First of all thanks for taking the time to read this... I am 35 years old have been in the same relationship for 2 years... he is a Cheif in the United States Navy... I got pregnant ( twins ) and he was standing by my side seemed to be so happy and excited.. I did however notice he didnt go to appts ect but always had a work excuse... The weekend I was being educed.. weekend of Sept 6th... He knew all about it ( we didnt live together) We spoke he said he was excited, he loved me... and could'nt wait.. that same week ( weekend of birth) he vanished... took off and went to visit his other two children from his previous marriage in virginia.. ( i only know because someone slipped and told me.. they thought I knew) He never told me when we spoke he was leaving.. he just took off and went... I went to his home on that friday for dinner as planned and he was gone.... ( sunday I gave birth) I called him over and over on his cell with no return phone calls..... no phone calls whatsoever.. I called while in labor and also after I had his two children... Upon his return when I asked him where he was he said " out of town" and left it at that.. He was mad at me because I was upset he wasnt there for childrens birth.. the entire time he was in the hospital... he never once came to see us... today is September 21st and he has yet to even see his children... I tried two weekends in a row... no calls nothing.. despite him saying yes.. I went to his home alone to find out what was going on and he ended us for no reason... One of his sons has some lung issues and he has barely even called.. and when he does he tells me to lose my attitude and if i dont he hangs up... I asked him this morning after he screamed at me for being angry if he even wanted to see his children.. his answer " when I am available" Love has turned into pure hate.. children are not a convienence... he wasnt even there to sign birth certificate it has nothing...... I dont know what to do... he takes the time to visit and call his other two children daily ages 5 and 7.. yet ignores my calls... I dont want him in their life with his attitude and the stunts hhe has pulled.. Am I wrong to feel this way? I mean he wasnt even their for the birth and has called maybe twice... I just dont understand.. I feel like a horrible person because i looked into his computer.. and he has been in [censored] sites... talking and caming with [censored] females...yet he has no time for his family and new children... What should I do... Thank you for listening
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Desiree10
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This man of yours obviously just showed his real face. Is this a man you want to have around? Is this still the man you want to raise your children with? Does this man bring any good to the relationship or just drama, anger, resentment and regrets? I think you need to first get your emotions in a straight line. I know baby girl, your hormones are flip-flop right now and will be for a while, pregnancy and delivery. But still, your priority are the kids, obviously they are not on his list, if your children have to wait until you are available to see them..... In my bood you are nothing but SORRY. Maybe he needed a reality check, so he went to visit his other two kids and realized what in hell am I doing with another two. What ever is situation, you and the kids are not his priority, and that is all you need to know and work with right now. Get to court and file for Child Support, confronting him and going to his place will not help the situation, if this guy is really wanting to run from this responsibility, you do not want to stand in his way, you'd be suprised what men can do to avoid what he find's himself into right now. Get support, get rested, stress is not good for you or the twins. Bond with your two little angels and dont regret a moment for having them. His decisions are his alone and you are in no way responsible for them.
God bless you and your children.
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Jewelsy
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wow u really sadid it all and opened my eyes... I am hurt yes indeed... 2a few days before he loved me so in love then runs... But, i know my kids are my main concern.. I will read this letter often to get me thru this.. It really made me think... Can u possibly copy and paste this letter to my email.... It wont let me... this way when Im feeling weak I can open it up and look? it is Therapy4kids90@yahoo.com
And thank you so much for all you have said...
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