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gr8Dad
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Did you notice... [Re: Shanie]
      #3184 - 10/12/04 12:37 AM

...that the psots ENDED back in AUGUST? Do you EVER add anything to the conversation?

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Shanie
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Re: Did you notice... [Re: gr8Dad]
      #3241 - 10/12/04 06:58 PM

Point being, you never followed up when 2 other parents noted the same reaction from their kids. What does the endig date ahve to do with anything? Are you wishing the post away?

Edited by Shanie (10/12/04 08:02 PM)


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Re: Did you notice... [Re: Shanie]
      #3273 - 10/13/04 12:03 PM

Good Lord! Maybe he did feel that there was a NEED to respond, maybe he forgot about the thread. What's the big deal anyway?

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Re: Yes you DID [Re: Shanie]
      #3305 - 10/14/04 03:26 AM

Yes, I thought so too. LOL Typical though. Really typical. Something about him sets him apart from Eric though. I think gr8dad has some redeeming qualities when he wants to. <sigh> Off to work. I have much to catch up on here at this site, and will do so tonight. Blessings, Onyx

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Re: Yes you DID [Re: Shanie]
      #4278 - 11/17/04 08:46 AM

if your still checking replys:
cut your losses, if he doesn't want to be a father, why force your child to make him one. how can you feel safe letting him spend time with someone who doesn't want to be with him. a child doesn't NEED a mother or father. a child NEEDS love. don't force the issue.


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movingon
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Re: Yes you DID [Re: sparky]
      #4700 - 11/28/04 09:41 AM

Onyx, I'm with you. My 3 year old son is constantly saying goodbye to "daddy" when he should be saying goodbye to me. He always prefers me and anything I give him or do to anything his father does or gives. My ex is a wonderful father, (not husband) and neither one of us has ever given him reason to take sides, but after we separated my son became much more attached to me. Toddlers have a very strong sense of abandonment and if your ex doesn't show his face, your son most likely feels abandoned by him. I say, forget the ex and move forward with your son. Just be sure not to fall into the trap of negativity regarding his father. Try to be strong. I think you can. God Bless.

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Re: Yes you DID [Re: movingon]
      #4701 - 11/28/04 09:50 AM

((((Thank you)))) I have come to terms with it. I do not and will not bad mouth him infront of either of my kids (my 13 year old has a great father, and step mother... he wont even bad mouth my ex to my 3 year old... we have talked about it and he agrees to keep his opinions to himself, and be there for his brother and not hurt him) The baby is doing fine, rarely asks about his Father, when he does, I tell him..... "I dont know sweetie, but I do know that Daddy loves you." I got away from telling him that Daddy was sick, because as an afterthought, I realized that I was causing the baby some worry about his Father. He doesnt like it when I am sick, and hugs me to make me feel better. I didnt want him to feel as if his Father was sick, and he couldnt hug him, or make him worry about it. So, the "I dont know, and he loves you" will have to do for now. Thanks for the support movingon, and to the rest of you too. Blessings, Onyx

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Re: Yes you DID [Re: Onyx]
      #4708 - 11/28/04 11:47 AM

Onyx luv, you sound like a really great mom. Doctors tell you not to make excuses for either parent, dont badmouth them but dont protect them either. So you are hadnling this very well. As to Gr8dad saying three year olds dont know this, couldnt be more wrong. I often think we are more intune at 3 then 30. When my daughter was three she would only go to her one grandparents house every 3 or 4 months as they lived out of town. She knew exactly where her toys were kept there and knew exactly where the dog treats were kept. They have incredible memories at that age.

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Re: Yes you DID [Re: aussie928]
      #4721 - 11/28/04 12:57 PM

Kids know more than we realize. Things we do (or don't do) as adults will also have a profound affect on them. Keep this in mind when dealing with children of all ages.

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