mommynurse
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to be posting here in Men's Rights, but someone else has probably been in my hubby's shoes. I was wondering how you guys might have handled it.
He's been the NCP for 5 years. At the time of their separation, he felt his children (both girls) would be better suited with their mom, so he agreed to her having sole custody and his visitation per state guidelines. To make a long story short, progressively, things have gotten really rotten since then. He had a "straw that broke the camels back" moment in late June when his youngest child was abducted from her home (by her uncle) and abandoned at a gas station. At that time, he hired an overpriced, lazy lawyer (who came highly recommended. HAHA, joke's on DH!) to handle a petition to modify custody. He has court on Monday and is expecting to get his ass thoroughly kicked. Why? Because in order to keep up with CS payments, he's had to work like crazy. His job doesn't offer vacation time, so he can't just take off work whenever to attend middle-of-the-day parent-teacher conferences or take his children to Dr's visits (BM is a SAHWM). Until recently, I was a SAHM, so I took the kids to the Dr.s (even if we didn't have them when they were sick). Each year, he has met with the girls' teachers and keeps regular contact with the school. However, since he's missed a few conferences and not taken them to the Dr.s, he is considered a deadbeat dad, supposedly, in the courts eyes.
I know it's probably too late for him now, but I was wondering, how do you guys juggle financial responsibility and primary caregiver roles?
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Blah
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Ms. nurse, as there are NO MEN on this forum, I don't think anyone here can help you. Sorry for the inconvience. And now back to "Girls Chat"!
Blah
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Loretta
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So is blah (missing an important part) therefore blah is correct in saying [quote]Ms. nurse, as there are NO MEN on this forum, I don't think anyone here can help you. Sorry for the inconvience. And now back to "Girls Chat"!
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Blah
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Ms. nurse,
As I tried to tell you earlier today, there are NO MEN here. Only bitter "men hating" women. They will give you advice, but not from a MAN'S perspective, as that is impossible, because they are NOT MEN. In fact, they are the opposite of MEN, they are WOMEN, haunting this MEN'S RIGHTS forum. All the MEN have fled this site as there is no point to it. It is now exclusively for girls. Sorry for the inconvenience, and now back to "Girls Chat"
Blah
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JTW
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Sorry to burst your bubble Blah, but I think there just may be a few men here. Well I happened to find this site this morning looking for info on CS and fraudulent income forms filled out by my ex wife. Anyway, as a man, and also as a man with primary custody for the last 8+ years, I work from home. I am remarried and we work as a 'normal' household would I guess. We own our own company so hours are set by us. It makes it easier to keep up with all the school/sport activities, still isn't easy though. Of course then there is all the cr p we have from the ex to deal with as well.
Good luck.
Here is CA the most important issue is a stable home life, in our case it took going to the court appointed psych to determine who was better fit to provide such.
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Blah
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Welcome to the MEN'S RIGHTS forum which is mostly women but does have a "few" men. Not particularly encouraging. If you have questions for real MEN visit www.dadsdivorce.com. Did you notice that all but one of the answers to my thread about women posting here were NOT MEN. Coincidence? I think not. So far mommynurse (a non-man) has received no answers from any men here. Why is that? This site is corrupted.
Blah
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mommynurse
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I am a woman and I don't understand the issues that dad's deal with everyday. Which, is why I cannot offer my husband any sound advice. I wasn't trying to bait you into an argument. If I wanted a woman's opinion, I wouldn't have chosen to ask this question here. I was hoping that with Eric gone, you fellas would be helpful. That maybe you would offer up something that I couldn't get in the estrogen zone.
I'll be the first to admit, when Eric was here, I would post just to piss him off. Hell, that was my daily dose of humor. But, if you'll notice, since he was banned, I haven't been posting here. You guys were actually giving advice to desperate fathers.
If any of you guys have a change of heart and would like to give me some advice, please send me a PM. Thanks!
Oh, and by the way, have fun. I see that Eric's back!
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legalidiot
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I don't believe that this is a "man or woman" question. Parents juggle thier responsibilities the same way. It is true that the court system usually favors the woman. Most of our laws were made to take care of the Stay at home mom who gave up her life to raise children. Unfortunately, the party all the time on dads support check moms get the same advantages.
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Blah
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Ms. nurse
Have your husband (a MAN) pose HIS problems here. No offense, but HE will be helped and can explain it to you.
Yes, I see the KOOK is back, if it really is him. I think FIRM is really a woman trying to bait us all! Bait HER all you wish! To Idiot, Parents DO NOT juggle or jiggle the same. The Girlies have ALL of the advantages legally!
Blah
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