Jenyphur
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Ok..my 9 year old daughter had to just serve a 60 minute in school detension. She received this for arguing with the teacher. I completely agree with having her serve the detension but my question is...what should they be doing for 60 minutes? Reading? Doing homework? Writing 100 time, "I wont argue with the teacher"..etc?
This is her first (and hopefully ONLY) time getting into trouble of any kind like this. She's a great kid but appreantly likes to debate her opinion a little.
When I picked her up today, she was in tears and stated she thought she was going to vomit. Figuring she was just emotional over the entire ordeal I asked her what happened.
She told me they are not allowed to move AT ALL for the entire hour. They have to sit in a chair, facing forwards, no slouching, no moving their heads, no bathroom breaks, etc. For the entire hour.
What are your thoughts on this?
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GrammaLatte
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My thought is that she won't argue with the teacher again.
I would keep in mind, unless and until you speak to the school, you only have half of the "story" regarding after school detention requirements.
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Maury
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I think it sounds like a fiorm of time out and is a suitable punishment. Allowing them to do homework may not be so much of a deterent.
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Rebecca5
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Sounds like she didn't like it. That makes it a 'punishment.'
Allowing them to read or do homework is nothing other than another study hall.
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winnowill
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I remember getting detention once. I hated it. We had to do the same thing. I don't think there is anything wrong with it.
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BeckaLeigh
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IMO, that isnt so bad. We had a problem here when they first started ISS, the parents of the first boy raised a big ruccus (SP) about him being in a cubicle all by himself. This was about 17 years ago. It proved to be a success with most students, plus they dont miss school like in my day. We got suspended and werent allowed on school property at all until our suspension was over.
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I tried being normal once. Worst five minutes of my life.
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Pops_IL_CP_Dad
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A 9 year old was "in tears and feeling like vomiting" because she was made to sit still for a single hour? Holy crabs! If I had complained about something like that to any of my parents -- Mom, Dad, SM or SD -- they all would have told me the same thing -- SUCK IT UP AND BEHAVE! AND I would have been grounded on top of it. Sounds like the kid needs some serious discipline...
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Jenyphur
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She should be disciplined because she didn't like sitting still for an hour? I think that's the whole point..she didn't like it...that's punishment enough for her not to do it again. And I wouldn't call it complaining...she came out, I noticed the tears in her eyes and asked how if everything was ok. But thanks for the judgemental attitude anyways.
She's a very good girl...honor roll, never been in any kind of trouble before so this was all new to her. I don't think it's unreasonable that she had an unpleasant reaction to having to sit perfectly still for 60 minutes. The purpose of this thread wasn't to get your opinion on how she reacted, it was to get your opinion on the ISS procedures.
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Jenyphur
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I get the whole time out thing but honestly my opinion is that 60 minutes is a bit long to expect a 9 year old to sit and reflect on what they did wrong. I can see 15 - 30 minutes. The rest of the time should be spent writing a letter of apology to the person they affected. That's what they would be expected to do in the real world. When I do something wrong or hurt someone's feelings, I usually will write a letter or note apologizing for what I did.
I also received detention once or twice in school..I think I sat out in the hallway in my desk. It was boring but I at least I could move around.
I did talk to the teachers that handle the ISS. They did however confirm that the students are not allowed to slouch in their chairs, move their heads, rest their heads down...they have to sit as still as possible for 60 minutes.
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Pops_IL_CP_Dad
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"Unpleasant reaction" softsoaps those big ole crocodile tears and "I'm gonna puke". It just sounds like she is just trying to ensure that she didn't get in more trouble with you. So sorry you took that as being judgmental.
Kids don't normally try that stuff unless it works. She obviously learned somewhere that she can argue with adults. Ergo my opinion that she was going to get away with it...
But, just ignore that opinion since you didn't ask...
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