Debi
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I hope everything turns out exactly the way you want it to, but my suggestion is go into court hoping for the best but expecting the worst. Like your attorney mine told me there was no way I could lose when I filed for primary placement (we've had 50/50 for 4 years) after my x was charged with possession of child p0rn. (he was a teacher and looking at 11 and 12 year old boys on the internet) When I filed for the change I didn't even know what was going on, just that he had dumped the kids off and had not had 1 overnight in 9 weeks. My attorney told me there was no way we could lose. Guess what? Last week I lost. He plead guilty to some of those charges and I still lost. He gets sentenced next month and I wait until after that to file an appeal. What ever his sentence he WILL have to register as a sex offender. Tell me how my SO and I are not better people to raise these kids?
I'm not trying to discourage you, just warn you not to be cocky because you could end up with the wind knocked from your sails like I did.
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SteelersJR1
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Debi, Thanks for the post. Trust me, I am ANYTHING but cocky. I am scared to death to go to the hearing. I have not seen my son in 47 days, he called my phone once ( I KNOW he at least used to bug daily to talk to me, that's just how he is. SHE'S not "allowing" him to call, is how I think it is) a week ago. I'm terrified that it's going to be this way for a long time. I pray continually that it's not. I can't see how God could keep my son & I apart for anyone's best interest. That's not the God I worship, but, being human, I'm a worrier. I want it to be 6 months or a year down the road TOMORROW so all this pain is over & I'm once again a real person, livinig a real life with my real son. All I have right now are a few pictures and my memories. Geoff
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ginni
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Steelers darlin...I cannot help with what's going on in Pa...but I can surely help convert you to the ways of the BIG D. That would solve alot of your problems.
LOL!
Love always,
a smart alec cowboy fan
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Debi
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Oh, I wasn't implying you ARE cocky, just saying don't get that way over something your attorney tells you. After all you're paying him/her so they are going to tell you what you want to hear. It sucks because you go back and forth from dreading what's going to happen to being sure you can't lose, to losing, so having to wait. It all sucks.
What ever happened to that island a bunch of us planned for our x's years ago? The one with the flesh eating army ants and the x's tied to trees covered in honey?
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kav
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Ginni
I wish someone could help what's going on in the burg with the Steelers. Quite a disappointing game :( But gotta tell ya Ginni, through better or worse, you can never sway a Steeler fan. We are fans for life.
SteelerJr, what's happening there? Bad coaching from what I heard. Letting the Jags beat us. And Cinncinati, they're just kicking butt and making it even harder on us.
We'll come back (I hope)
Kim
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SteelersJR1
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Cowboys??? Are they STILL a team??? :)
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SteelersJR1
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I'm hoping that if I put my STBX at mid-field, blindfolded, & tell Cower what type of person she is, their defense might get a shot at an extra practice!
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SteelersJR1
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I know you weren't saying I was cocky. I'm scared as hell about it. I'm terrified that I'll be labeled a "bad dad" or something. I haven't talked to my son in 50 days. Although I'm a dad, I think you moms out there (at least generally speaking) can understand how horrible that is. I'm really close to him (at least I WAS really close to him-no telling what "Satan" has crammed into his head by now) & we did & went everywhere together. It reminded me of that old commercial "Like Father, Like Son" (except not smoking), but he copied (copies???) everything I did. If I stood a certain way, he'd do it too. He walked the way I walked. He sat the way I sit. To go from that to nothing in almost 2 months is REAL close to unbearable. It's taking all my energy not to "storm the castle walls". I just keep telling myself that, although I won't have custody, YET, I WILL get to see him & be with him soon. Pray for me/wish me luck/chant/voodoo, whatever it is each of you do, please do it. Court is Thursday.
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Kim, I LOVE Pittsburgh sports. I've been a Steelers/Penguins/Pirates fan every since I can remember. But, I haven't watched an entire game this season yet. I've got too much garbage on my mind to get into it. I get nostalgic (STBX also a fan-we used to watch games together, a few years ago) & sad & it's sometimes easier just to not watch. I KNOW I have to get over that or my whole life will be affected. I'm just having a hard time with it. It's only been 3 months & the shock of it all still hasn't really worn off. I'm getting better, but it's a s l o w process. I was supposed to have a spousal support hearing tomorrow, but my lawyer called me & said let's cancel & go with the court's recommendation from 2 months ago (that is REALLY going to P.O. my STBX. Good!) That's good news because tomorrow is my B-Day & I REALLY was NOT looking forward to having to basically become a "john" & pay my wife to have sex with someone else on my b-day.! Again, the important one is custody on Thurs-cross your fingers. Anything is more than I have right now. and is only a start. I don't care how long it takes, or how much it costs. I'll fight for my son till the day they put me under. My [censored] at work is FIGHT4HJR!
Geoff
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kav
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I can see loving the Steelers and Penguins, but the Pirates. I had to give up on them long ago, they can't keep a team. They can't afford it. I really think baseball needs a salary cap. I know what you mean about sports and watching with the stbx. We use to go to the local bar to see the Steelers play (amazing the Steeler fans in CT). A couple of weeks ago I thought screw this, jumped in my car and drove to that bar....alone....ordered a drink and waited for the game. I had to force myself to go and I never did see the game, their satelite dish wasn't working. Restaurants, the same, I didn't think I could ever return to them. A couple weeks ago I went to a restaurant that my stbx and I went to quite often. It does get easier with time.
Geoff, have a wonderful birthday. Put all your worries aside for 1 day and enjoy yourself.
I will keep my fingers crossed for you on Thursday. I'll even try a little prayer for you. Good luck!!!!!
Kim
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Edited by kav (10/17/05 10:27 PM)
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