Jill
enthusiast
Reged: 09/19/05
Posts: 211
Loc: Oregon
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A divorce decree means absolutely NOTHING to the creditors as long as your name is still on the loans. A divorce decree is absolutely WORTHLESS if your ex thumbs his nose at the law and doesn't do what was court ordered.
If he dies, your settlement is absolutely screwed. The settlement, child support, spousal support....it all comes to a screeching hault.
You know your STBX better than anyone. Never, ever let the Judge or attorneys pressure you into going against your gut instinct.
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jaiye
old hand
Reged: 10/27/05
Posts: 860
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Since when do you get to decide what the judge is going to order? So what does it matter how much it is against your better judgement? Judges are going to order what they are going to order and you have NO say in the matter.
But this is why everyone preaches not to sign titles and Quit claim deeds before your name is removed and things are refinanced.
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JennyLynn
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/14/05
Posts: 31656
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I think what Jill is saying is to fight for something if you disagree with it - no, it doesn't always work - but I think she's saying not to sit back and basically have no say in how the attornes are settling anything, etc.
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BetsyR
member
Reged: 07/12/07
Posts: 187
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If you depend on CS, SS or anything else from your ex, you should insure his/her life with a term policy. Make sure it's big enough to cover your needs. If necessary, disability insurance might also be called for, but this can be prohibitively expensive in many cases. Insurance should be part of the court order and should be in place on the day of divorce.
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BeckaLeigh
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/08/05
Posts: 6875
Loc: Texas
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I didnt have much choice on anything ordered in my divorce other than the level of CS. I knew he wasnt going to pay it so I settled for whatever was on the paper at the time. Of course, 4 years later, I have decided it needs to be reviewed. As for him not paying his share, at least I wasnt stupid enough to expect him to.  Not saying anyone else is stupid for depending on an X to do what is ordered. I just dont set myself up for disappointment based on make-believe. I try to see it as it is, not how I would like it to be.
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I tried being normal once. Worst five minutes of my life.
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Relayer
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 03/13/07
Posts: 9506
Loc: Moorglade Mover
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Quote:
If you depend on CS, SS or anything else from your ex, you should
...get off your ass and get a j-o-b
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GO CUBBIES!!!!
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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And this just further proves you're now doing nothing but trolling. Spin THAT anyway you like it.
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Char Fox
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Renee
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4022
Loc: The Palmetto State
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Quote:
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If you depend on CS, SS or anything else from your ex, you should
...get off your ass and get a j-o-b
Geezus Relayer - you're not that damn cynical are you?
When was the last time you had a job that didn't make ends meet?
Ever?
Or did you walk out of college with that 3 figure salary and the "screw you" attitude?
Please tell me a man with your intelligence and education *knows* that not every PARENT who relies on cs or ss is unemployed, and that you're just choosing to ignore that fact because you're in a shytty mood.
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DeeCee
addict
Reged: 10/08/07
Posts: 420
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why are people like relayer so filled with bitterness and mean?
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Renee
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4022
Loc: The Palmetto State
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He's not typically bitter or mean. I'm of the opinion he's had enough bs from his exes to more than account for a jaded view. However, of late his tolerance for what he views as less than acceptable levels of responsibility has decreased significantly.
In short, he's pissed off about someone, or about something in general, and his Censor Button is turned off.
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